So I have a question for the rest of you.
Many of you already likely know my current situation. If not you can read bout it here.
To sum up, my wife is Bi and has recently felt the strong need for female companionship. This has led her to ask for an opening of our marriage so that she may explore these very strong feelings. She has found a friend within a month and they will be meeting up together for the first time in a few weeks.
I myself haven't felt a "need" to go actively looking but I don't deny that it sounds nice to have someone that I can connect with outside our marriage as well. I also won't deny that, after only having three sex partners in my life, the idea of a new sexual partner is titillating. I'm not unhappy with my marriage in any way and I am not Adonis but our sex life is good.
I just feel a bit of a pull that it might be nice to have another person to connect with on different levels. My wife and I connect on a lot of things but there are certain topics I feel strongly about that she just isn't interested in talking about. Perhaps I could find another partner that's more interested in these sorts of topics and even some activism.
So, is this enough that I should perhaps go looking for another partner?
If I do, does it make sense to wait until my wife's external relationship is solidly established before I go looking? (my feeling is that Yes, it does make sense to do this)
I'm not looking for advice on how to look, I think I can figure that out on my own. I just want to know if anyone else has faced this. Does it sound like I actually want another partner, or am I just entertaining the idea because my wife has something outside out marriage I should too?
I don't get out of the house a lot - but I occasionally go to game conventions (like Gencon) and I could possibly meet some people there. There is also a pretty open poly community nearby and I know a friend who is openly Poly and would probably be happy to introduce me around.
Thoughts?
Many of you already likely know my current situation. If not you can read bout it here.
To sum up, my wife is Bi and has recently felt the strong need for female companionship. This has led her to ask for an opening of our marriage so that she may explore these very strong feelings. She has found a friend within a month and they will be meeting up together for the first time in a few weeks.
I myself haven't felt a "need" to go actively looking but I don't deny that it sounds nice to have someone that I can connect with outside our marriage as well. I also won't deny that, after only having three sex partners in my life, the idea of a new sexual partner is titillating. I'm not unhappy with my marriage in any way and I am not Adonis but our sex life is good.
I just feel a bit of a pull that it might be nice to have another person to connect with on different levels. My wife and I connect on a lot of things but there are certain topics I feel strongly about that she just isn't interested in talking about. Perhaps I could find another partner that's more interested in these sorts of topics and even some activism.
So, is this enough that I should perhaps go looking for another partner?
If I do, does it make sense to wait until my wife's external relationship is solidly established before I go looking? (my feeling is that Yes, it does make sense to do this)
I'm not looking for advice on how to look, I think I can figure that out on my own. I just want to know if anyone else has faced this. Does it sound like I actually want another partner, or am I just entertaining the idea because my wife has something outside out marriage I should too?
I don't get out of the house a lot - but I occasionally go to game conventions (like Gencon) and I could possibly meet some people there. There is also a pretty open poly community nearby and I know a friend who is openly Poly and would probably be happy to introduce me around.
Thoughts?