So I'm rather new to the poly scene and I'm at an impasse... I've been with two guys, not even fully realized as poly, and I am now falling for a third guy.
I had a bf whom I was mono with for a bit and then we opened up the relationship. That is when I fell in love with a friend/lover of mine of five years. We then became a rather shaky V. Neither of them is primary or secondary... I wanted to try this out for my own to see if this is what I wanted. I'm still figuring all of this out and realize how I probably am not handling this in the best way at all.
BUT we were still open and I ended up being the one not having sex outside of the relationships, so I decided to go looking for someone and found him... My current lover outside of my relationships. We have been developing a pretty good relationship as friends, and neither of us can help falling for each other! Not to mention, I feel he would be the best material so far to be in a poly relationship and he has really opened me up to many things that I had never explored before.
I'm so so scared and lost... I can't lose any of these amazing people in my life, but I feel it would be so taxing on me to be in the middle of three guys, nor would it be fair to them. I'm at such a loss and I just want to know what some of you polys would do in this situation or if you have experienced it before.
I had a bf whom I was mono with for a bit and then we opened up the relationship. That is when I fell in love with a friend/lover of mine of five years. We then became a rather shaky V. Neither of them is primary or secondary... I wanted to try this out for my own to see if this is what I wanted. I'm still figuring all of this out and realize how I probably am not handling this in the best way at all.
BUT we were still open and I ended up being the one not having sex outside of the relationships, so I decided to go looking for someone and found him... My current lover outside of my relationships. We have been developing a pretty good relationship as friends, and neither of us can help falling for each other! Not to mention, I feel he would be the best material so far to be in a poly relationship and he has really opened me up to many things that I had never explored before.
I'm so so scared and lost... I can't lose any of these amazing people in my life, but I feel it would be so taxing on me to be in the middle of three guys, nor would it be fair to them. I'm at such a loss and I just want to know what some of you polys would do in this situation or if you have experienced it before.