PurpleSun
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So, I detailed my recent breakup in this thread. This was a monogamous woman who kept asking for patience as she got used to the idea of polyamory, and did all she could to draw out the whole "just the two of us" scenario. She basically flat out lied about her ability to accept the two major points I look for in relationships: Whether or not someone is polyamorous (or at least poly accepting), and whether or not they are childfree.
That got me to thinking. Over on a childfree subreddit I belong to on Reddit, there is an extensive thread on how to probe as to whether or not someone is childfree (obviously, I did not use it with this woman, and should have).
That got me to thinking - should, for poly people like me for whom polyamory is an absolute must - there be some kind of hard screening?
This is something I tell people upfront. Like, seriously upfront. So is the CF stuff, and religion and politics. Those are major MUSTS. But people tend to lie about kids and poly. So, thoughts? Should we try to screen for poly status, and, if so, what would that look like?
That got me to thinking. Over on a childfree subreddit I belong to on Reddit, there is an extensive thread on how to probe as to whether or not someone is childfree (obviously, I did not use it with this woman, and should have).
That got me to thinking - should, for poly people like me for whom polyamory is an absolute must - there be some kind of hard screening?
This is something I tell people upfront. Like, seriously upfront. So is the CF stuff, and religion and politics. Those are major MUSTS. But people tend to lie about kids and poly. So, thoughts? Should we try to screen for poly status, and, if so, what would that look like?