Hi,
I was in a relationship with Red(bf) for almost 3 years before introducing him to the wife(Green). Granted, not the best way to start things, but I was struggling with being Bi so I was on the dl. Well since coming out, she has accepted me and him as a couple. So I guess at that point we were a V and didn't know it. I just thought it was amazing I had a wife and a bf. Well as time has gone on Green and Red have also become close. At first it was light flirting but then we went the extra mile and had a threesome. Which was awesome for the most part. Things got a bit hairy when Green and Red hooked up without talking to me beforehand. I admit I was angry and felt betrayed. Like I would never do that to them type of feelings. Well since that time the 3 of us have had numerous talks about that situation and more recently Green went to do work in the same state as Ted and they spent 5 days together and got closer.
When she got back I blew up on both of them, and things just weren't great for about a week. We have talked a lot since then and I did a lot of inner searching of why I was so mad. Fast forward to now, and we have all decided to make this work. Red and I are a couple, Green and I are married, and Green and Red are I guess FWB at the moment. They have both expressed that they don't look at each other as in bf/gf. Although Green does like to say she has two husbands lol.
My questions is, is it normal that I still want to go back to the V type relationship where Green and Red are close but not intimate? Or is that some jealousy in me that I need to get over? I enjoy time with all three when we hang out, but the idea of 3somes everytime we are together is draining to me.
I feel like when Red is in town that I should get that alone time with him since I don't see him but a few times a year, but I want all three of us to have a good time as well. But don't want to be rude and tell Green " ok Hun time for you to go" Advice please
)). And sorry if I was all over the place.
-Blue