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I am working on reaching out more and meeting new women and have recently met a couple of ladies that I really like. However, the relationship is new and I don't really know them that well yet. Your insights are spot on with this and it is something I am working on the best I can. Thank you. Last edited by NeonKaos; 04-23-2010 at 12:17 PM. |
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Keep in mind-that you can create a "for the moment lets start with ONLY _______." That is why I say go back over it monthly. One of the things we are doing with D/s-which also has a boundary list- is we pick ONE new thing and see how it goes. If it works-GREAT. If not-we stop. But either way after a bit of time to get comfortable with the new activity OR decide we aren't going to keep doing it we come back to the table to identify a new activity. You could do the same thing with Poly....
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It's all very well to open up a relationship, but in my experience if there is any rock left unturned, it will be turned for us in figuring out a balanced poly lifestyle. It sounds like this could be the rock that is left unturned for you. Who knows, in turning it and going and getting your personal life in order, you could rekindle all kinds of good stuff in your marriage. Maybe there are even some rocks to turn that your husband would like to turn with you ![]()
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D&C, welcome! It sounds like you're in a tricky spot. There's just one piece of advice I want to give...
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![]() Here are links to two amazing articles (same author, same site-- lots of great stuff elsewhere on there if you're interested) on jealousy in poly relationships-- they go from the basis that feeling jealousy is a big sign from your brain telling you that something needs fixing. That 'thing' could be the relationship, or your husband's behavior, or your perception of a situation, or anywhere in between. http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolyjealousy.html http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolyrefrigerator.html The best advice I can give you, if you decide to keep investigating poly possibilities, is to be open to a variety of possibilities. Everything has potential to trigger jealous feelings, but it's possible to work through that jealousy with lots of communication and slow baby steps. Thanks for sharing, and good luck! Keep posting-- we're here for you. In cahoots, ~S
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