I came out when I was 19. I tried to like boys in high school. It just didn't work, I waited until I was away at school...
I would like to think that the lesbian part was the hard part but this is not going to be easy... The time is coming soon...
Why is this not going to be easy? The whole I tried to like boys, how did that work?
When I was in HS if it moved I fucked it. Part of that was hormones ramped through the roof and the other part was feeling unloved and unloveable.
Since my wife jumped into me, I have gotten totally picky. Maybe there has been some completion of the feeling incomplete and needing to find my other half. There is still a part of me that wants a companion, but 15 years in I have to suspect there is some very different thing going on for me.
I take it Dad has never met Renee and Mark. Just tell him. This is like that pimple in HS that looked Mount Everest to YOU in the mirror and no one else gave a shit. When you came out at 19 how bad was it? How did your father react?
You are inside a stable family as best I can tell. With j9 that is 10 years. From the sounds of the dynamic between you and Renee, there is some slight tension as she pushes you towards things you've never done. I am sure just hating how now you have one more thing that makes you come! Lol
So often we have these big things and in the end it is a total, "yeah and so what was the Important thing you wanted to tell me?"
I keep hearing about Dad, but never Mom. I think I missed the mom died? Mom ran off with the mail man, mom ran off with Dad's secretary? Is thanksgiving a big gathering at your house?
My thanksgivings were at our ancestral farm. Always my father's side of the family because my mother's side lived a thousand or more miles away. But it was a gathering, like seven adults and ten or so kids. Took two tables. Then as we got older a couple of the adults died, but kids started bring gf bf assorted friends from school who lived to far to go home. There were times, cold at Thanks giving when I and a friend or two slept in the hay barn in sleeping bags the house was so full of people.
So if it dad alone, he might like coming to a larger family gathering. My gf used to freak because our family fought and argued all the time, but we thought nothing of it, we were just people who debated with passion. Dinner over, argument over, I think after like fifteen years of this we decided to have a code word, "peanut butter" to let someone know they needed to chill. Argument ramped up, someone said to my sister, "I think you need a peanut butter sandwich." She was in the middle of telling someone in clear terms what an asshole they were and added, "and you can take that peanut butter sandwich and shove it up you ass!" Whole family cracked up.
Just a thought
I mean it sounds like you guys are getting along very well. I do not see this relationship ending anytime soon.