Hello all,
I recently found this website and registered. I would like to share a bit here because I don't know others who are in a poly relationship in my area and this thread applies to a recent experience.
I've been in a poly relationship for about 8-9 months now. The last month has been difficult for us and without going into details, the main issue was that trust was lost. So, our relationship is not in a good place at the moment.
My partner has been traveling on holiday for two weeks by herself and be open to new connections since that was established initially in our relationship. She's already met two guys she felt comfortable enough to have one night stands. Her connections do not upset me but what makes me sad/upset is that even though our relationship is not in a good place when she left for holiday, she was able to allow herself to go further with her connections and have one night stands while I'm still hurting. She knows I'm still hurting and I know she's still hurting from the broken trust.
Another thing that upsets me is that we both have HPV and talked about being open to our future potential partners about it so there is respect and care. But with the two guys she recently had connections with, she didn't tell them. Her reason was she no longer had any visible symptoms so no need to disclose it to others.
I'm not against one night stands and it's comforting to know that poly is open to it. I'm just venting because there didn't seem to be any respect and accountability on her end. Am I being unreasonable?
Thanks for listening and any feedback would be appreciated. =)
~mayang
I recently found this website and registered. I would like to share a bit here because I don't know others who are in a poly relationship in my area and this thread applies to a recent experience.
I've been in a poly relationship for about 8-9 months now. The last month has been difficult for us and without going into details, the main issue was that trust was lost. So, our relationship is not in a good place at the moment.
My partner has been traveling on holiday for two weeks by herself and be open to new connections since that was established initially in our relationship. She's already met two guys she felt comfortable enough to have one night stands. Her connections do not upset me but what makes me sad/upset is that even though our relationship is not in a good place when she left for holiday, she was able to allow herself to go further with her connections and have one night stands while I'm still hurting. She knows I'm still hurting and I know she's still hurting from the broken trust.
Another thing that upsets me is that we both have HPV and talked about being open to our future potential partners about it so there is respect and care. But with the two guys she recently had connections with, she didn't tell them. Her reason was she no longer had any visible symptoms so no need to disclose it to others.
I'm not against one night stands and it's comforting to know that poly is open to it. I'm just venting because there didn't seem to be any respect and accountability on her end. Am I being unreasonable?
Thanks for listening and any feedback would be appreciated. =)
~mayang