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Hm. I'm covering a discussion group for one of the friends who was involved (and hurt by) the recent triangulation episode and subsequent fallouts, and she just told me she may not ever make it back. I don't honestly know what to say to that. I want to be there for her, yet I feel that I made a mess of things, or at least made a tense situation a lot worse though I wanted to help. And today I have so much going on that I can't wrap my brain around figuring out what might be the "right" thing to say here. I've told her that I care, and that I want her around. I know she is going through stuff. I feel for her. But it's just like...my desire to help has not brought about anything good, so I don't know what to do or say now.
I'm mostly concerning myself today with stuff going on with my kids. I got a call from Ninja, in Montana, letting me know he was doing well. He wants me to buy him a printer. Says he needs one. So I need to look into that. I wonder if they make printer/scanner/copiers in a reasonably compact size...
And Q apparently is the sort of human who does a lot better under pressure than not. His nearly full time employment at Taco Bell has not compromised his ability to keep up his grades. He had an issue in his gym class but other than that, he's doing very well. His attitude has been better than ever. It could be that in the past he's had too much time on his hands, too much freedom, and not enough purpose and structure and stuff to make him feel productive and busy. I did some reconfiguring of his high school graduation requirements and class scheduling plans, and despite failing a lot of credits last year, we should be able to get him through school with just a couple of online credits both summers, before and after his senior year. Which would mean he would not participate in the graduation ceremony, but he would still get his diploma without having to go back for an extra semester as a "Super Senior" (god that sounds ridiculous.)
My older son, Ninja, had to make up a couple of courses I think during the summer after his senior year, to get his diploma, too. So he is getting what will look to him, like an equivalent amount of extra time and support from home, as what his brother got. These kinds of things matter to Q sometimes. But we should have him all squared away by the end of summer, 2020. And then where he goes from there will be up to him...to a point. He is strongly considering enlisting in the military. He turns 17 in just a few days! I will be an empty nester before too much longer.
And my job has been piling on stuff, and I've got my things at the club, and I make sure to protect my ability to spend time with Zen, in my schedule. But my calendar is pretty chaotic looking. At some point I want to wedge in some fall/Halloween activities with my kid, but damned if I know where.
I'm mostly concerning myself today with stuff going on with my kids. I got a call from Ninja, in Montana, letting me know he was doing well. He wants me to buy him a printer. Says he needs one. So I need to look into that. I wonder if they make printer/scanner/copiers in a reasonably compact size...
And Q apparently is the sort of human who does a lot better under pressure than not. His nearly full time employment at Taco Bell has not compromised his ability to keep up his grades. He had an issue in his gym class but other than that, he's doing very well. His attitude has been better than ever. It could be that in the past he's had too much time on his hands, too much freedom, and not enough purpose and structure and stuff to make him feel productive and busy. I did some reconfiguring of his high school graduation requirements and class scheduling plans, and despite failing a lot of credits last year, we should be able to get him through school with just a couple of online credits both summers, before and after his senior year. Which would mean he would not participate in the graduation ceremony, but he would still get his diploma without having to go back for an extra semester as a "Super Senior" (god that sounds ridiculous.)
My older son, Ninja, had to make up a couple of courses I think during the summer after his senior year, to get his diploma, too. So he is getting what will look to him, like an equivalent amount of extra time and support from home, as what his brother got. These kinds of things matter to Q sometimes. But we should have him all squared away by the end of summer, 2020. And then where he goes from there will be up to him...to a point. He is strongly considering enlisting in the military. He turns 17 in just a few days! I will be an empty nester before too much longer.
And my job has been piling on stuff, and I've got my things at the club, and I make sure to protect my ability to spend time with Zen, in my schedule. But my calendar is pretty chaotic looking. At some point I want to wedge in some fall/Halloween activities with my kid, but damned if I know where.