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Old 06-14-2015, 03:47 PM
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I think he should just wait until the kid is at least a year old to have any other relationships. Might turn out that way anyway, if he truly participates as a father should - you and he will both be more exhausted than you ever thought possible!
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Old 06-14-2015, 03:52 PM
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Mu husband had booty calls during both my pregnancies and after but that's all he had time for. Your partner needs to be realistic with how much time he will have for another love and they need to know that for a couple years his time will be extremely limited.
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Old 06-14-2015, 04:01 PM
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If he insisted on pursuing a new relationship I would put ttc on the back burner until this new relationship has settled (no more NRE) and you guys are in a good place emotionally. Of course it will still stand that when you do get pg and baby is there it will severely limit his time with his other partners so this potential partner will need to be notified of your future plans because she might not like to have her time reduced and that may cause issues later
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Old 06-14-2015, 08:22 PM
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Re (from noonoo):
"Maybe I'm getting it all wrong and he does really believe, however naive, that whatever happens we can work it all out and it's all just that easy?"
He probably does really believe that. And maybe you can "do it all at once." But I bet it won't be as easy as he thinks ...
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Old 06-19-2015, 08:50 AM
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Having a baby is not going to help a tense situation. You have to be on page 1 together and well grounded to have a and raise a child. Is the girl friend going to have a part in the workings of the relationship and raising your child? Or is she just on the side for him, so he can escape from stress. We would not give up our daughter, we also lost a son 3 years before she was born. It is hard. But we are inseperable and never apart if we can avoid it.
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