I was on OKC very briefly after joining this site. Out of the messages I got, only one interested me enough for me to meet the guy, and he turned out to be one of those people who likes to talk to hear his own voice, and not to actually have conversations.
I met both Hubby and S2, and my ex-boyfriend, through AdultFriendFinder. Hubby and I had "met" in the chat room for our geographic area but hadn't really interacted; we met in person a few days after he joined the site at a barbecue held at the home of one of the chat members. (Our area does a ton of G/PG-rated meet and greets at bars, clubs, and even people's homes; they're all low-pressure, no-sex kinds of things so people can see who each other is.)
I met the ex-boyfriend at a club meet and greet (he wasn't from our area, so hadn't really been in chat; he was here on business).
And S2 was "perving" profiles at random on AFF and stumbled on mine; he sent me a message that was off-beat enough for me to respond, and we messaged back and forth for two or three weeks before we finally decided to meet in person. He hangs out sometimes in the chat room now, but he didn't start chatting until after we had started communicating. Maybe not until after our first meeting, I can't remember for sure.
AFF isn't necessarily poly-friendly; it's officially geared more toward swingers or single people who want no-strings hook-ups. But I first heard the term "polyamory" and a logical definition of it from a friend I met on AFF (you can actually find *friends* there as well as sex... and finding friends is usually easier), and obviously no-strings hook-ups aren't the only things that happen there. Hubby and I are one of at least 10 couples I know of from our area who met through the site and ended up married or at least living together. The site's profile options are limited; among other things, you choose your "marital status", which really ought to be "relationship status" in my opinion. And none of the options apply in a poly situation. But you can do a written piece of your profile to explain all of that.
I met a ton of frogs on there before I met Hubby; and after we opened the marriage I encountered several more frogs. But when you find someone who's right for you, it makes the frog pond worth it.
I met both Hubby and S2, and my ex-boyfriend, through AdultFriendFinder. Hubby and I had "met" in the chat room for our geographic area but hadn't really interacted; we met in person a few days after he joined the site at a barbecue held at the home of one of the chat members. (Our area does a ton of G/PG-rated meet and greets at bars, clubs, and even people's homes; they're all low-pressure, no-sex kinds of things so people can see who each other is.)
I met the ex-boyfriend at a club meet and greet (he wasn't from our area, so hadn't really been in chat; he was here on business).
And S2 was "perving" profiles at random on AFF and stumbled on mine; he sent me a message that was off-beat enough for me to respond, and we messaged back and forth for two or three weeks before we finally decided to meet in person. He hangs out sometimes in the chat room now, but he didn't start chatting until after we had started communicating. Maybe not until after our first meeting, I can't remember for sure.
AFF isn't necessarily poly-friendly; it's officially geared more toward swingers or single people who want no-strings hook-ups. But I first heard the term "polyamory" and a logical definition of it from a friend I met on AFF (you can actually find *friends* there as well as sex... and finding friends is usually easier), and obviously no-strings hook-ups aren't the only things that happen there. Hubby and I are one of at least 10 couples I know of from our area who met through the site and ended up married or at least living together. The site's profile options are limited; among other things, you choose your "marital status", which really ought to be "relationship status" in my opinion. And none of the options apply in a poly situation. But you can do a written piece of your profile to explain all of that.
I met a ton of frogs on there before I met Hubby; and after we opened the marriage I encountered several more frogs. But when you find someone who's right for you, it makes the frog pond worth it.