Jesus. Over 1K views for this thread. That is amazing. I love you guys.
I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for sharing this experience. I wish I had gotten to read about such a thing before I got to experience it for myself.
Thank you also for modeling so well thoughtfulness. You absolutely humble my inflated ego with how amazingly mature you are....my 42 year old self often judges that someone must not be very evolved yet if they are under a certain age...and the irony is always a good wake-up call for me to see people much younger than I who are more evolved than I am just yet. You rock!
It takes constant work. I am pretty immature when it comes to joking around (nothing funnier than a penis or butt joke) but I am pretty mature in other areas of my life. The majority of issues my wife and I have had in the past are the fact that I am not very helpful when it comes to chores and the like. Not because I don't want to do them, but because I am quite lazy. Being mature enough to work on the house and get things taken care of is very difficult for me.
As far as this situation, and emotions in general, I've always kind of considered myself more mature. I know the norms are that the younger you are the more ridiculous you are and a lot of that has to do with experience but another portion is mindset. I've always had one goal in mind: Have a family. I met that goal, and everything else is just gravy.
Thanks for taking the time to read the story. I'm always willing to discuss this event, or really anything, further as well. If you want to talk to me about anything just PM me. This is directed at anyone, not just the person I'm quoting. Talking is how I cope and I'd love to have someone I could talk to on a daily basis that understands how I feel. The people I talk to most are people that just don't understand. Le sigh.
hey Kylekat. Have you looked at "
The Five Love Languages?" Its a book that describes five love languages that we feel loved by. Being touched, cuddled, etc. is not a strictly "female" thing. For example, I live with two touch centric men and I am not. I am female. I have noted, from talking about this book, that most people feel loved when they are touched. You are one, and so are other men. Please consider your possible generalizations on this one...
I have not looked at the book you mentioned. I know it's not strictly a female thing but that is how the general populace sees it. As it is said in TV, "That touchy feely crap". I have always been this way and I have come to terms with it a long time ago. I also learned that it's not male/female. It's unique to the person.
Edit: I now understand why they call alcohol a downer. I was offered a new job today (promotion, woot!) and it was a friend's birthday party so I went out and got blitz drunk. After a very long night (ended at 3 AM at a friend's house) I walked to my car (a very sobering walk) and as I neared my car (which was a damn long walk away lol) I realized how upset I was. Then I wondered why I was upset. So I thought about it, and I realized that I'm upset with the idea of them being together but when I actually consider that they are together, I am fine. What? Brain, stop fucking with me. Just because I soaked you in a terrible mess of alcohol for the past 9 hours is no reason for you to sabotage me. Luckily, I've already thought about this for days on hand so I was quickly able to rationalize that it was just the alcohol. Good thing because I was moments away from drunk dialing her.
Lesson number 30283 learned.
PS: I should mention that I never, ever get drunk. It took two drinks to get me drunk (crown and coke). The shot, and two more drinks later, and I don't remember any drinks after that. I think I was just picking up and drinking whatever I found at that point. I remember everything except drinking more drinks. They are sneaky! Like ninja drinks.