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Old 06-22-2018, 03:13 PM
Keke Keke is offline
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Default Hello, a new guy here

I am a twenty something guy, in a (still) mono relationship with a bisexual girlfriend. I will be posting a thread as soon as I get my thoughts straighten out.
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Old 06-22-2018, 08:19 PM
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Greetings Keke,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I have looked at your other thread, and responded there briefly. Long story short, you and your girlfriend should sit down and have a talk about what potentially works for both of you. In the meantime, I encourage you to continue to read and post here, getting feedback and answers to your questions.

I'm glad you could join us.
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Old 06-23-2018, 05:23 AM
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Hi Keke - and welcome to the Forum! I looked at your other thread as well - and agree with Kevin - you both should sit down and talk about what works for you. When an established couple opens up, the details literally have to be negotiated - with communication being absolutely essential - and, in fact, communication is justifiably the favorite buzz work in poly.

It is true that in poly circles - such as this forum - the idea of limiting the woman to other women only is discouraged (the OPP), especially if the male partner is free to date women. However, if she doesn't want you to have sex with women, you do have a good argument to make about wanting her not to sleep with men. Ideally, both of you will eventually come to be open to the idea of the other being intimate with other members of the opposite sex.

Best of luck on your journey! Al
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