Hey all!
I'm going through a divorce, which anyone knows who has left a relationship is full of ups and downs. We were not poly but I have always been very, very interested in it. I brought up the subject several times throughout the relationship, but he preferred to have affairs, so I'm out!
I'm very interested in having multiple friends, lovers, compatriots to share my life with - be there for one another and enjoy the pleasures of life. Or just take in a movie.
But as you can imagine, I've got a can of worms and a half over here with divorce, kids, transitions, etc. While part of me wants to hunt down the Fresno Poly group and join in - part of me also knows I'm not in a place emotionally where I'm ready to date or get into anything serious. I do want to meet new people and start connecting more with people who could potentially be new friends.
My question is - for those of you who have ever transitioned from a monogamous relationship - or even long term relationship - how long do you wait before you go connect with others? I am not sure what I am looking for right now, but ready to meet new people. Can I go be part of the community without wanting to dive right in?
SillyCh
I'm going through a divorce, which anyone knows who has left a relationship is full of ups and downs. We were not poly but I have always been very, very interested in it. I brought up the subject several times throughout the relationship, but he preferred to have affairs, so I'm out!
I'm very interested in having multiple friends, lovers, compatriots to share my life with - be there for one another and enjoy the pleasures of life. Or just take in a movie.
But as you can imagine, I've got a can of worms and a half over here with divorce, kids, transitions, etc. While part of me wants to hunt down the Fresno Poly group and join in - part of me also knows I'm not in a place emotionally where I'm ready to date or get into anything serious. I do want to meet new people and start connecting more with people who could potentially be new friends.
My question is - for those of you who have ever transitioned from a monogamous relationship - or even long term relationship - how long do you wait before you go connect with others? I am not sure what I am looking for right now, but ready to meet new people. Can I go be part of the community without wanting to dive right in?
SillyCh