A unicorn is generally ...
ok, so i'll have to seriously consider these "stipulations" seeing as i recently fell into (at least what is said to be) a similar situation.
1. didn't know we were bisexual until a little too much tequila was involved and since then we've had the best sex of our lives (by ourselves and with my/our husband)
2. 1 answers that question
3. we have made it quite clear amongst ourselves that we love each other equally and that we want to spend the rest of our lives together
4. my husband and i are the "couple" and have been married for 12 years but we have all known each other about the same amount of time and realized that we loved each other at the same time (about a year ago. we have been calling each other momma, daddy, and baby
5. she just moved in with us but i'm pretty sure after so many years our families (which are mostly conservative, but we don't care) are gonna figure out that we are together
6. all of our families have been friends for years (even celebrating holidays/etc.)
7. after our "wife" (Baby) decided to get divorced from her husband she moved in with us
8. she is sorta financially dependent cuz she is in the middle of a divorce but we share the bills/expenses by percentage of income (tx to research of how others do it plus common sense)
9. not younger, actually older (i am 34, my husband is 33, and she is 37)
10. not childless (she has 2 kids and we have 4, they were born and grew up together and have been basically family already)
11. we share babysitting duties based on who's home/working
12.maid for free? that's kinda rude, we all clean (cook, whatever) as needed and when we have time/energy
13. we are only partnered together, of course things may change in the future but we have discussed this and at this time we would consider it cheating if we looked outside of our triad which none of us wants to
14. we are sexually exclusive
15. as in any relationship sex isn't a a bargaining chip, if we want it we need to make sure they do to, i wouldn't want someone to force me to have sex so i wouldn't do that to someone else. usually we 3 are together.
16. the word "used" here is key, she is not a sex slave, we love/care about each other. yes we have threesomes (which i am getting used to), yes i still have sex with my husband, yes i have sex with my wife/gf/"baby," and yes and would/do let my husband sleep with her too but its still way too new and we are just getting used to feelings/logistics.
17. celibate whenever the couple says so? that really sounds horrible, but unfortunately that has been the way its been
hopefully once we work the kinks out we we feel for free to have sex with whoever we want to whenever we want (at least until the tricky legal/divorce stuff is over and the kids are used to us all being together, its definitely a fine line we have to walk). ideally, i want us all to sleep in the same room every night and i guess the sex will just hopefully be natural depending on who wants it at the time.
18/19. when it comes to day-to-day decisions we all have an equal vote and my husband and i even let Baby have a bigger voice sometimes so she knows she is just as important and that we love her just as much. when it comes to my husband and i's long term joint accounts (mortgage/student loans/etc.) we legally have to make the decisions together with her input when appropriate. she definitely has veto power when it concerns our relationship/life/well-being. we care about her enough to take her feelings/needs into account with every decision we make.
i think this was mostly an exercise for me to even really understand what i am getting myself/ourselves into. we are extremely new to the lifestyle (considered it about 3 months ago and became serious a month ago when she moved in). really, i didn't even know much about it until over a week ago and started gathering information (i don't know how much they know, probably not as much because i am a serial researcher). we all just knew we loved each other and felt like we could be in a relationship together forever
now, when i look at my life when i'm old i see three rocking chairs instead of two and the more the merrier i say.