When you come out of the closet to potential partners who continue to practice monogamy, why do many of them express monogamy as a virtue rather than a preference? Why do they believe since they don't have sex with other people they are giving 100% in their relationship while we are giving a poor effort in our relationships because we either have a secondary boyfriend/girlfriend, friends with benefits or simply have sex with acquaintances?
I think pondering these questions are important in our application and theory of poly because some of us in the future may be involved in a poly relationship where our primary partner suddenly decides he or she wants to be mono again because of the taste of jealousy his/her poly experience. Ultimately they believe sexual/romantic jealousy signifies only an exclusive sexual/romantic relationship can cause two partners to give 100% dedication to one another while two poly primary partners can only give LESS than 100% dedication to one another because they are not truly "committed."
I think it is easy for former poly people (who lacked the wisdom to deal with jealousy) to be converted back to faux moral monogamy and preach monogamy is an objective moral standard of behavior in sex and relationships because of their experience of sexual/romantic jealous in poly. I notice many of them in the comment section of YouTube videos discussing poly. What do you think?
I think pondering these questions are important in our application and theory of poly because some of us in the future may be involved in a poly relationship where our primary partner suddenly decides he or she wants to be mono again because of the taste of jealousy his/her poly experience. Ultimately they believe sexual/romantic jealousy signifies only an exclusive sexual/romantic relationship can cause two partners to give 100% dedication to one another while two poly primary partners can only give LESS than 100% dedication to one another because they are not truly "committed."
I think it is easy for former poly people (who lacked the wisdom to deal with jealousy) to be converted back to faux moral monogamy and preach monogamy is an objective moral standard of behavior in sex and relationships because of their experience of sexual/romantic jealous in poly. I notice many of them in the comment section of YouTube videos discussing poly. What do you think?
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