Well, seeing what she said as an insult is your choice. She was offering her stance on how she views certain actions, in general, as a way to help you. I am certain the choice of words wasn't an attack on you personally. You can choose to indulge in feeling insulted or look at the feedback and see if it has validity.
Ha, I spent a week on okc iming with a guy who just didn't get I was poly. My profile says, Open Relationship AND Non-mongamous, OK? I mention in the 2nd paragraph of the first section "about me," that I have a live-in gf and a bf who lives nearby.
This guy just didn't get it. He asked why my bf looked at his profile (I almost always send a link of ppl I am talking to, to Ginger, he enjoys it). I said, he's a good poly bf, he's looking out for me. No, he isn't jealous.
A few days later he accused me of cheating: "You have a steady bf and yet you're looking to date others." The hell? Where does my profile say I am not dating ethically? Sheesh. Finally I called it all off, he was just seeming dumb and dumber. Then he says, "I don't need men looking at my profile." I guess that weirded him out a lot! lol So when I told Ginger that, he went and looked at the guy's profile again, just because.
Then the guy msged me to complain Ginger had looked at him again, saying, "Is he jealous?"
So, my point is, even when you have banners and neon signs proclaiming your polyamory, some mono people just insist you're just a cheating whore.
Yeah, in the past few months I have received zero messages, but several guys a day "like" me. At first I would check out their profile and send messages to some (although most, well, it was obvious they hadn't read mine. Their profiles were pretty much a list of everything that wasn't me being what they were looking for).
But I never got messages back, so now I don't bother. If they actually want to talk to me, they'll have to send a message, not just "like" me. Frustrating though. Several of them a day and not one willing to send even a couple sentences.
I don't think the Cupid notifies people anymore when someone rates them 4 or 5 stars. Plus you can no longer see your own list of starred people. They keep changing features around.Don't give up, Tonberry. I wrote to Ginger because he'd 4 or 5-starred me . . .
I don't think the Cupid notifies people anymore when someone rates them 4 or 5 stars. Plus you can no longer see your own list of starred people. They keep changing features around.
Every dating site I have ever used has an area for relationship status in the profile. Granted, OKC has had recent updates so it is not visible for everyone who hasn't updated their profile since the updates, but in most cases it says "single" or "married" or "available" or something to that effect. What do you put in those areas? If someone says single, then they have answered the "what is your relationship status" question already so I wouldn't bother. If it's left blank, then sure... Ask.
Today I noticed a new status OPEN RELATIONSHIP on okc, so I'm now updated to that from married.
I was actually kind of saddened by that change. I preferred available (which is how people showed up if they listed seeing someone/married AND looking to date) over "open relationship."