Hmmm, you know I have always been more hurt by what people say, rather than the volume they say it in....some of the most hurtful things ever said to me have either been written or said in a low voice, my mother OTOH is a bark is worse than her bite person, she can huff and puff but it is all hot air and nothing very hurtful. Consequently, I can handle people blowing hot air pretty well, if I think something is out of order I just say so, I expect the same consideration, two people screaming at each other is, in my opinion not the same thing that the OP was referring to though, people are often far too quick to say 'Oooh raised voice, does that person need counselling? It must be abusive, why are you in that relationship, the stress of dealing with a person who might express themselves that way...it might cause PTSD' Oooh shock and horror, pass the smelling salts.