opalescent
Active member
So I've had some interesting discussions with friends and acquintances lately. When I state that I have broken up with Whip, almost all of the time, the friend or acquaintance initially assumes that his other partner is 'responsible' or involved in some way or caused our breakup in some way, directly or indirectly. And they've done so with no prompting on my part.
I find this puzzling. As it happens, I don't hold her responsible for anything to do with my relationship with Whip. Yes, he stopped spending time with me, our connection suffered because of it. The reason is that he was heavily involved in building a business. It is a business they own together and both work on. But that fact alone doesn't make her responsible or even relevant in how my relationship fell apart. I mean, I suppose, it's possible she was digging my grave behind my back but I just don't think so. This is on him. He's responsible for his part, as I am for mine.
Have others experienced this? Or something similar? Where the metamour 'gets the blame' in some way from others for the end of the relationships?
I find this puzzling. As it happens, I don't hold her responsible for anything to do with my relationship with Whip. Yes, he stopped spending time with me, our connection suffered because of it. The reason is that he was heavily involved in building a business. It is a business they own together and both work on. But that fact alone doesn't make her responsible or even relevant in how my relationship fell apart. I mean, I suppose, it's possible she was digging my grave behind my back but I just don't think so. This is on him. He's responsible for his part, as I am for mine.
Have others experienced this? Or something similar? Where the metamour 'gets the blame' in some way from others for the end of the relationships?