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Old 12-08-2017, 10:35 PM
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Hi all,
I’m Midwest born and raised living in PA currently. I’m an artist and “jack of all trades” (Jill?).
I still feel new to poly. My long term partner, Kettle (8 or 9 ish years together) opened up our relationship about two years ago. Since then I have made out with a pal and went on one date. He has had a few serious interests that for various reasons have not developed romantically. We’re in a fairly isolated area, so options for dating are thin. Overall, I’d say the switch to poly has been great for us. He feels that it’s part of who he is, I consider myself a convert and am still not sure if I’d even want additional partners. I have had two compelling crushes, but neither worked out, which I feel is for the best in those cases. We read “more than two” and take a lot of guidance from that book.
Just to round this out, he has two kids (20 and 17) from a prior marriage that I’m very close with, they count me as a parent and I feel the same about them. They aren’t aware of the change in our relationship. Because of geography and timing, there hasn’t been a good time to have the discussion when they’d have time/space to process and respond. Since neither of us have developed any other relationships, our home base dynamic hasn’t changed much.
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Old 12-08-2017, 11:05 PM
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Greetings Lantern,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like poly is mostly a new thing for you (and Kettle), although having read "More than Two" you have a head start that many polyamorists never have. Kettle's kids, do they both live with you? I am just curious.

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Old 12-09-2017, 05:13 PM
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Hi Lantern - welcome to the Forum! We have lots of experienced poly folks here are generally friendly and helpful, as well as a quarter million archived posts. Don't hesitate to post any specific questions that you may have - you are almost certain to get a good response. The Poly Relationships Corner and and General Poly Discussion sections are quite active. We will look forward to hearing more of your story - and best of luck on your continuing poly journey! Al
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Old 12-09-2017, 08:06 PM
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Kevin, they did. Before we moved we had both of them half time, eventually his son (the oldest) full time. When we moved out of state his son came with us and his daughter stayed with her mother. This meant each kid got the best school option for them, but it’s been sad to be away from his daughter. His son graduated high school this past year and moved back as well, so for the first time in our relationship, we’re kid-less. We’re actually planning to move back to the area they’re both in now to be close to them until they move on with college and jobs and life and such.
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Old 12-10-2017, 07:32 PM
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Ah, that makes sense.
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