Hi everyone.
Quick intro - my wife and I have been swingers for 4 years, and have been in 2 poly relationships. The first was an honest triangle with another woman that was amazing for all involved until it didn't end so well.
Our current situation is a V. P is my wife and primary, A is my secondary. The women interact on occasion when we're feeling in the mood for a swing situation, but the relationships are essentially separate.
We met A as part of a couple while swinging. She has since been divorced and after that we started this poly relationship which has been very strong for over a year.
But A is seeking a monogamous partner. She goes on dates and we tell each other everything, but our situation is going down friendship road at this point. I want to be happy for her and supportive of her efforts to find herself in a solid home life - and am completely comfortable with the end result - but the journey is proving difficult. I talk about it with my primary, I've read articles and blogs and things, but here is the dilemma;
All the advice I'm finding is about your primary and their outside relationships. But what about the secondary? I almost feel like I'm being abandoned. A is not my wife, but she is my best friend, and has been a lover for many years.
There seems to be a lot of good advice going on here and I hope this question isn't too far out there and I'm not just being selfish.
Thanks guys and gals!
Quick intro - my wife and I have been swingers for 4 years, and have been in 2 poly relationships. The first was an honest triangle with another woman that was amazing for all involved until it didn't end so well.
Our current situation is a V. P is my wife and primary, A is my secondary. The women interact on occasion when we're feeling in the mood for a swing situation, but the relationships are essentially separate.
We met A as part of a couple while swinging. She has since been divorced and after that we started this poly relationship which has been very strong for over a year.
But A is seeking a monogamous partner. She goes on dates and we tell each other everything, but our situation is going down friendship road at this point. I want to be happy for her and supportive of her efforts to find herself in a solid home life - and am completely comfortable with the end result - but the journey is proving difficult. I talk about it with my primary, I've read articles and blogs and things, but here is the dilemma;
All the advice I'm finding is about your primary and their outside relationships. But what about the secondary? I almost feel like I'm being abandoned. A is not my wife, but she is my best friend, and has been a lover for many years.
There seems to be a lot of good advice going on here and I hope this question isn't too far out there and I'm not just being selfish.
Thanks guys and gals!