My husband and I have decided to officially enter into a poly relationship.
I'll just get down to my question.
The guy I am interested in knows that I am in an open marriage, has met my husband, knows that I am interested in him, and is interested in me.
He is giving me very mixed signals though. On the one hand, we have a great friendship and romance. At times we are extremely close. We care for each other deeply, enough to argue at times. Other times he seems to "remember" that I am married and it bothers him. He absolutely refuses to have a sexual relationship and he says the only thing stopping him is the fact that I am married.
I really and truly care for him. I just want to pursue a romantic relationship with him while he is single and open him up to the poly lifestyle. I would be over the moon if he found someone to marry and live happily ever after with, in fact I have tried to set him up with friends.
The bottom line is that I really feel like I have a connection with him and I want to pursue it further.
I know that I can "convince" him to enter into a sexual relationship with me and then take it from there.
My question is whether I should do that. I am torn between pressuring him a little because he seems to act as if I put a little pressure on, he will be happy to fold. Or if I should just take what he says at face value? If I take him at face value then I am not going to allow him to flirt with me and take me on dates because that is sending mixed messages to me.
Any words of advice or encouragement/discouragement are welcome!
I'll just get down to my question.
The guy I am interested in knows that I am in an open marriage, has met my husband, knows that I am interested in him, and is interested in me.
He is giving me very mixed signals though. On the one hand, we have a great friendship and romance. At times we are extremely close. We care for each other deeply, enough to argue at times. Other times he seems to "remember" that I am married and it bothers him. He absolutely refuses to have a sexual relationship and he says the only thing stopping him is the fact that I am married.
I really and truly care for him. I just want to pursue a romantic relationship with him while he is single and open him up to the poly lifestyle. I would be over the moon if he found someone to marry and live happily ever after with, in fact I have tried to set him up with friends.
The bottom line is that I really feel like I have a connection with him and I want to pursue it further.
I know that I can "convince" him to enter into a sexual relationship with me and then take it from there.
My question is whether I should do that. I am torn between pressuring him a little because he seems to act as if I put a little pressure on, he will be happy to fold. Or if I should just take what he says at face value? If I take him at face value then I am not going to allow him to flirt with me and take me on dates because that is sending mixed messages to me.
Any words of advice or encouragement/discouragement are welcome!