graviton
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Unless you are planning to fuck the guy your wife is dating, none of what you said about the male on male intimacy is relevant.
If you believe your lover is your property, you'd have a problem with them dating anyone. Not just another male.
But I agree that men approve of their female partner dating other women because they believe it will benefit them. Or should benefit them. When they realise that it doesn't necessarily benefit them any more than a male metamour would due to annoying things like their metamour's and/or partner's preferences and boundaries, they are not so happy.
Not all men of course, but those who favour the OPP.
I'm sorry I should have clarified. When I refer to the intimacy between men and how those men try to not get too close in our society, I wasn't implying that the two men would necessarily have sex or even emotional closeness. However when you have a romantic partner you consider that person a physical extension of yourself in some regard. Thus sharing that woman implies a certain amount of intimacy between the two men even if they rarely ever talk to each other or see each other. I think there is a large amount of discomfort about that because we are most vulnerable through our romantic partners and sharing that intimacy with another man puts us too close to that other man for comfort. The Woman in fact becomes a conduit of intimacy.