So quick summary,
We have both had pure sex experiences with others (both together and seperate) and they have been good things. That being said, that aspect is kind of growing with us and evolving. The sex we have both had is fun but H has realized she needs to have an emotional component with anyone else she would have sex with or shes not comfortable. Our journey started from the hotwife aspect and has quickly kind of changed.
When we started dating I introduced her to RA Heinlein (I know that's an iffy author with poly but anyhow) and she has been fascinated with group marriage and pairings since. That was probably 13 years ago and with having had sexual experiences since with others. She has very much held on to the poly aspects of any sex encounters we have had and fully admits it's something she wants.
So, after my rambles, we are kind of at a general cusp. Recently she had some "fun" with a coworker who is married. His wife dint know and it didnt work outdueled to that. She felt bad about it for his wife and even though he and his wife have crappy marriage it is still there. So it brought up that she needs a boyfriend and not a dalliance. I was NOT surprised at all and that's completely her, would have been shocked if it was different honestly.
I would very much like for her to let herself find the boyfriend shes said she would love to have but she is very concerned about ruining our marriage both for us and our youngest. I am not a jealous guy and have supported whatever she decides. That being said she admits she struggles between her worries of harming our relationship and being able to enjoy another. Advice to pass along to her? From what I can tell she wants a secondary involved with both of us and I am OK with that. I do to have any immediate plans for any other people on my side at all but will full embrace whatever or whomever she decides. I would assume these concerns are common for people in our situation. Any advice from others that have been through this type of situation?
We have both had pure sex experiences with others (both together and seperate) and they have been good things. That being said, that aspect is kind of growing with us and evolving. The sex we have both had is fun but H has realized she needs to have an emotional component with anyone else she would have sex with or shes not comfortable. Our journey started from the hotwife aspect and has quickly kind of changed.
When we started dating I introduced her to RA Heinlein (I know that's an iffy author with poly but anyhow) and she has been fascinated with group marriage and pairings since. That was probably 13 years ago and with having had sexual experiences since with others. She has very much held on to the poly aspects of any sex encounters we have had and fully admits it's something she wants.
So, after my rambles, we are kind of at a general cusp. Recently she had some "fun" with a coworker who is married. His wife dint know and it didnt work outdueled to that. She felt bad about it for his wife and even though he and his wife have crappy marriage it is still there. So it brought up that she needs a boyfriend and not a dalliance. I was NOT surprised at all and that's completely her, would have been shocked if it was different honestly.
I would very much like for her to let herself find the boyfriend shes said she would love to have but she is very concerned about ruining our marriage both for us and our youngest. I am not a jealous guy and have supported whatever she decides. That being said she admits she struggles between her worries of harming our relationship and being able to enjoy another. Advice to pass along to her? From what I can tell she wants a secondary involved with both of us and I am OK with that. I do to have any immediate plans for any other people on my side at all but will full embrace whatever or whomever she decides. I would assume these concerns are common for people in our situation. Any advice from others that have been through this type of situation?