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Old 08-31-2017, 01:31 PM
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Thanks so much powerpuff.

Things seem to be going so well, for a new relationship. I saw Kahlo last Sunday, the 27th, and we have plans for later today. That adds up to 6 dates in our first month, since we met on August 4th.

On Sunday as we parted he said he had a "fantastic time." We had marathon sex, then went downstairs and played music youtubes from my phone to the big screen. It was fun sharing some of our favorite music with each other.

Our friend T is still with us, still apartment hunting. He spent much of this week moving his stuff from his old place (with the toxic roommate) into storage, while still looking at apartments and working too. I hope he finds a place soon. Our housing market is so tight. His anxiety levels are pretty high. It makes me appreciate how much more in control Pixi's anxiety is than his is, lol

Pixi leaves for her last camp weekend tomorrow. She will go to her bf's tonight and spend the night and leave for camp from his place. They weren't able to get together this week yet as he'd had a cold or something. He suffers from a lot of sinus issues. I hope he's better enough she doesn't catch anything.

It will be so nice to have her back home after this weekend. She's so tired... we haven't even had sex this week, but lots of cuddles. Thank goodness Kahlo is taking care of me in the sex/kink department every few days. Big benefit of poly!! One partner can't do everything.

Camp is so good for Pixi though. Her self confidence is really growing. She's such a great counselor she is being promoted to director in charge of camp day to day workings. The head director is involved with fund raising and the other camp branch in California and many other things. Pixi will need to do more office work, but still work directly with the kids as well, doing archery and lots of other things.

We did have a couple nice dates nights this week. On Tuesday we spent time in the kitchen together cutting up chicken and veggies and marinating them and skewering them for shish kabob. Pixi grilled everything, we ate, yumyum, and then we threw a couple small chunks of firewood on the remaining charcoal after dinner to sit and enjoy the fire, since it was a cool damp but not raining night.

Last night Pixi suggested we go to this 75 year old funky family restaurant diner place in the next town for fish and chips. It was really fun. She had some buffalo chicken wings and fish and chips. I had lobster bisque and Key West style fish nuggets with a sweet tropical tasting tartar sauce.

My energy levels have gotten lower the past couple weeks. i guess they will come back at some point. I miss the higher energy I had in the beginning of August.

Now off to chiro.
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Old 09-09-2017, 04:55 AM
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Hey, thanks for directing me to GirlfromTexlahoma's blog and your blog. I love reading about your relationship with Pixi, and I look forward to updates on Kahlo.
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:07 AM
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Hey, thanks for directing me to GirlfromTexlahoma's blog and your blog. I love reading about your relationship with Pixi, and I look forward to updates on Kahlo.
You're welcome!

So I guess I've had 8 dates with Kahlo now... This thing seems to be real and I guess I can quit keeping track! LOL

He got here at 6 last night. Just before he arrived, Pixi and T went out to Target, so Kahlo and I had some cuddles on the couch uninterrupted. He started being sexual with me right away (I think it had been 8 days since our last date, he was eager!). But I had to talk a little, tell him how stressed I'd been the previous day during Irma's attack on Florida. I have lots of family and friends down there. Luckily everyone came through with no damage to bodies or properties. But god was I worried and tense all day!

So anyway, we headed to the bedroom soon enough. We ended up being in there 2 hours, fucking and cuddling and talking and fucking some more and napping and more fucking and more cuddles and telling stories of our lives. He's nice and dominant in bed. He is also a bit of a sadist, and is increasing his activities in that area gradually. I'm all for it, it's just what I want!

Outside of actual things we do in that area, he is sweet and gentle and funny and a little absent minded in a charming way. Like, he's so intelligent and gets lost in his philosophical ideas and misses out on little details of life right in front of him.

When we finally decided to emerge from the bedroom, Pixi and T were setting up for a game night. We played Exploding Kittens and a vintage 1970s game called The Magnificent Race, which should be more popular. T and Kahlo had never seen it before and we all really had fun. It was neat to have my new bf interacting with Pixi and our old friend T, and playing games. It gave me more insight into his character.

After we were done with the games, it was getting late. T went to bed. Pixi and Kahlo and I made some food and watched some TV and chatted some more.

Ahh, it was all so fun, Kahlo didn't leave until 12:45! Long past my bedtime but I didn't mind.

So, Pixi got home from camp about 11 days ago. She was sooo tired, her little body was aching. She really pushes herself. So the first week home she rested a lot. This week she is starting to get projects done. It's nice to have her back and be a couple again! She has had to get caught up with her bf too of course. He is interested in more and more time with her. It's something new to get used to. Not bad, but different and a little awkward. I occasionally feel something approaching jealousy, just a tiny bit. I guess it's envy. But we talked it over for a few minutes just to clear the air. And now she's getting those projects done that went undone all summer, so I feel better.

I talked to my daughter the other day. She is the one who had so many psychological issues in her late teens and early 20s? Well that is in the past. She's been improving for 3 years now. She told me she is starting back to college, and is also newly pregnant with baby #3!
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Old 09-15-2017, 09:36 PM
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Forgot to mention, the same day I last saw Kahlo, I also saw my old bf Punk.

Once again I commented on one of his social media posts, and he texted me right away and started chatting. He was having really bad back spasms as a side effect from a psych med... he'd discontinued the med, but the back was really bad. The Valium he got for the pain didn't work. He's resistant to most pain meds ever since his terrible shoulder injury years ago.

So, I said, hey, I've got some oxys left over from my herniated disc pain last year, want a couple? He came right over.

I know he'll take any excuse to get together. He really likes me/us and wants to hang out... sigh. It's so hard for me. He's so fucking cute.

This time we mostly sat around the girl cave, and Pixi sat on the couch with him and I sat in an arm chair. It helped some to put some space between us.

Otherwise it was really really fun to talk and joke around and stuff. He's good guy. Even if he won't or can't have sex with me. He was here a couple hours.

Next day he texted about something we'd been talking about, and also told me his back has relaxed. So, I helped him.
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Old 09-17-2017, 12:35 AM
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I've GOT to get back on the board more often... Glad things are going well, Mags (well, for everyone except the poor overcooked lasagna, that is)! Looking forward to hearing more about Kahlo (and maybe if you don't have it, we can bring Bears vs. Babies over for ya to play)!
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Old 09-17-2017, 05:59 PM
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Hey YaH, glad to see you back. I hope we can get together soon. I am still pacing myself, but I miss you guys!

Yesterday was my fall Pyrex swap. I really took it easy. I hardly brought anything to trade. And it was an hour 15 min drive away, the farthest I've driven myself anywhere since getting sick. So, I got there late and just stayed an hour and a half. It was super fun though, great group of gals. I traded and sold a few things, and bought some other things, remarkable pieces, great prices. Fun!

Also yesterday, T finally found an apartment! Just what he wanted to pay, in a good neighborhood in Worcester. I am so happy for him. It's not quite ready to move in, the owners are making a few improvements, but it will be soon. He is so relieved! He wants something he can live in a long time. He wants to adopt a kid or 2 before too much longer. So the neighborhood is surrounded by child friendly places, parks, a lake with a swimming beach, and it has a big backyard too.

He's been a good guest, but it will be nice to have our privacy back.

Tonight he and Pixi and I are splurging and going to see It. We are all Stephen King fans and didn't want to wait til it comes out online. Special treat! I invited Kahlo but it turns out he doesn't like movie theaters, even though he loves movies. He is coming here tomorrow night, we'll watch a movie on our own big screen.

I was inviting him over every 5 days but I've changed it to once a week since I was getting overwhelmed what with T being here too. Plus I've been enjoying reconnecting with Pixi after her summer away.
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Old 09-27-2017, 03:01 PM
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Kahlo leaves tomorrow for a month plus a week in Mexico City, his hometown. His family went through the recent earthquake. They are OK but some of their houses have cracks. I found out he co-owns a house there with a cousin. Their grandmother left it to them. He'd been planning on going down before the earthquake happened. I hope things go OK and he's safe!

I am going to miss him! We seem to be established though, so I guess we will pick right up again when he comes back. I saw him twice last week and once this week. Time just flies when we are together.

The other day, our temporary guest T was in a small low impact car accident. No whiplash or anything. It was his fault, his GPS starting incorrectly trying to reroute him, and he hit a car in front of him, which had stopped at a yellow light.

He has work and school in and around Boston. Now his car is in the shop awaiting insurance red tape before work can begin on it. So Pixi drove him to Boston yesterday (she had a dr appt) and he will crash there until he has his car back. I guess his insurance doesn't cover a rental. He is supposed to move into his new apartment this weekend, so god knows what will happen if his car isn't ready... time will tell. Meanwhile, Pixi and I were getting a little tired of having a house guest. It's been 6 weeks! So now he's gone early and we have our privacy back.

I hurt my back, pulled some muscles, cutting away weeds and sumac from the foundation on two sides of the house on Saturday. I did OK pruning bushes out front a month ago, so it must've been the bending over that did me in. But I've gotten another pain med from my GP, and it helps for acute pain.

On Sunday I medded up and Pixi and I drove 90 minutes to a beach on the very north of the Massachusetts coast. I hadn't been to the ocean in 14 months!!! I was just dying to go. Well, it was great. When we got our chairs and stuff to the beach, I plunked down and rested and we ate our picnic. After that we tried the water. It was what you'd call "warm" for New England! We waded a lot. And eventually I felt I could handle walking. The tide was going out and the sand was hard. It was great. I was stiff at first but as soon as my endorphins kicked in, I felt fine.

Lovely lovely relaxing day. It was in the 80s. This beach is a bird sanctuary and protected. There are limits on the amount of cars allowed in so it's always quite uncrowded. So relaxing. We plan to get to our other favorite beach this fall too; there is still plenty of good weather left.

I saw both my cancer dr and my regular dr last week. I also got an eye exam and had STD labs done. Ordered new glasses and frames (some so cute cats eye frames!) and my STDs all came out negative.

Of course, I am thinking of fluid bonding with Kahlo. I asked if he had any women in Mexico... nope. So once he gets tested, I think we will be good to go. He told me he hasn't had a steady gf in a couple years.
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Old 09-29-2017, 01:12 PM
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T got the news his car had $4000 worth of damage! Such a shame, he only recently finished paying it off and he was so proud, and glad to have no car payments.

His anxiety is through the roof. Pixi is going to help him move tomorrow and they are lining up a few more strong people to help. I'm glad Pixi and I had a few nice days to bond, since she'll be gone most of the day on Saturday, and then spend the entire day with her bf on Sunday.

I suspect I slightly sprained my back last Saturday doing the gardening, pruning, weeding. Then I kept up activities by going to the beach and then vacuuming a lot... I had to vacuum, it was so overdue.

Today I have chiro and then in the afternoon an appointment with a headache specialist my GP recommended, because of the pain I get from my neck bones that are aligned incorrectly and for which there is no treatment. After that I can rest and hopefully get relief from the back pain... Growing older is not for wimps. sigh...

2 nights ago I forced myself to rest. I'd recorded the director's cut of the movie Woodstock. Back in the day, I'd owned the album and memorised it, and also saw the original 2 hour movie. This one was 4 hours. Pixi watched it with me. Being younger she was unfamiliar with much of the lore and some of the groups. It was great to see Janis, Jimi, and Ten Years After in their primes. Pixi was enthralled with all the joy and fantastic music from that legendary weekend. I also recorded the Monterey Pop Festival which was from earlier in the summer of '69. Looking forward to that one too!
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I saw both my cancer dr and my regular dr last week. I also got an eye exam and had STD labs done. Ordered new glasses and frames (some so cute cats eye frames!) and my STDs all came out negative.


No news on any of this is GREAT news. Happy for you.
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I saw both my cancer dr and my regular dr last week. I also got an eye exam and had STD labs done. Ordered new glasses and frames (some so cute cats eye frames!) and my STDs all came out negative.

No news on any of this is GREAT news. Happy for you.
Thanks! My new cute glasses are also ready. I hope Pixi and I can drive into Boston early next week to pick them up. Can't wait to do a vintage makeup and headscarf and put on my cats eye glasses and do some selfies to show off on my vintage lifestyle boards.

Hmm, so my medication journey has changed again. I saw the headache specialist yesterday, and as soon as she got an understanding of my neck bones and spine issues in general, she prescribed gabapentin, which is for nerve pain. Last week my GP gave me a prescription for cyclobensapirine, which, like my tramadol, is a muscle relaxer.

The cyclo plus my tramadol worked well for me last Sunday when we went to the beach. The pain from the strained muscles in my lower back went away and I was able to take a long walk on the sand. But Pixi takes gabapentin for her nerve pain, and when I'd tried it, it also worked for me! I guess I have both lower back muscle pain, and upper back, neck, head, nerve pain... sigh.... so confusing.

Anyway, I was told to take one gabapentin at bedtime for a week, see how I do. I can take up to 4 a day, depending on what I need, increasing once a week. I took one around 4:30 yesterday, instead of waiting til bedtime. Well. I was tired from it and went to bed around 10:30 and then woke up fresh as a daisy, at 3:30 am! This is going to take some adjustment.

The weird thing is, Pixi is supposed to take her gabapentin 3 times a day, morning noon and night, whereas my dr wants me to take up to 4, all at once, at bedtime. Pixi is terrible about taking meds though. I always need to remind her and practically force her to take her meds (hormones, antidepressants, vitamins as well as one gabapentin) at some point in the day. She was taking another gabapentin or two during the day at camp, just because she was working her body so hard, but now that she is home, she isn't really taking 3 a day anymore, just one. I guess she feels OK enough on one. She should take one at bedtime, but I am already asleep when she comes to bed and can't remind her, so she forgets.

So, this is all very boring to anyone but me, I am sure. It's just complicated so I wanted to write it out for my own benefit.

Moving on...

T found out yesterday, his car is toast. It's been declared totaled. Poor guy. He's going to have to buy a new car next week. Today is his moving day. He is borrowing another friend's SUV and Pixi will be using my Rav4 instead of her Scion. The move can't start until after T goes to the apartment at 2pm for a walk through with his new landlord. It's supposed to rain most of the day, but stop around 4. Unfortunately it's getting darker earlier now, so I don't know how that will affect the move of T's stuff from his storage unit to his apartment. Well, it's not my problem, I am not helping! Not with this back of mine. It will all work out in the end. I'm happy for him. I am also happy for his cats, who have been living in our guest room for 6 weeks! Poor kitties. They are afraid of our dog, and I am afraid for my Pyrex displays, so we haven't let them out of the bedroom more than 2 or 3 times.

Since we've had T here, and I started up with Kahlo, I've neglected my son and our friend K. (Since I am still lacking in energy, I don't feel able to be SO social.) But now that T is moving out, I am thinking of a plan to go play bar trivia at our favorite brew pub with them (and Pixi, but not T) next Wednesday, inviting Punk as well. I hope people want to do it. I wanted to invite Pixi's bf too but she doesn't think he'd go. Come on man! Get to know Pixi's family. It's been 4 years and he's still soooo shy.
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