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A few words of wisdom from some people I used to take workshops with:
The focus of their work is self-awareness, self-growth, and living in the moment. Amazing how incredibly simple their guidelines are. Whenever I've put these into practice, great things can happen, or I just feel good and balanced in my life.
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The world opens up... when you do.
"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry "Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia Click here for a Solo Poly view on hierarchical relationships Click here to find out why the Polyamorous Misanthrope is feeling disgusted. |
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2. No two things can occupy the same space at the same time.
So, I can't put a sandwich and an apple in the same lunchbox? |
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![]() I think that guideline was originally a quote by Isaac Newton or someone like that. But it is true. Can I really forgive someone while I am holding them in judgment? Can I be truly present and responsive to someone in front of me if I'm preoccupied with thoughts of other things or people? Can I give my full attention to a conversation at lunch if I am texting someone else? Can I feel good about who I am while I am beating myself up over something I did? Can I make decisions that benefit who I am today while I am focused on the past? Can I be my own person while I am resisting being just like my mother? Multi-tasking isn't really doing two things at once; it is shifting your attention back and forth between two or more things. And being present means being with what is. Those three guidelines really work in tandem, not separately, but they do work. They help me to be able to step back and observe what's going on and respond appropriately to a situation, rather than reacting out of old tapes that get played. The result is transformation -- of myself, the situation, the people around me, or any combination of these. Even all of these can be transformed at once. It takes practice though, and reminding myself. Old patterns of thinking and behavior often get in the way. BTW, River, the Radical Acceptance book arrived today, and I'm looking forward to diving into it.
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The world opens up... when you do.
"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry "Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia Click here for a Solo Poly view on hierarchical relationships Click here to find out why the Polyamorous Misanthrope is feeling disgusted. Last edited by nycindie; 02-16-2011 at 08:08 PM. |
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So, in resisting and reacting, we find ourselves making decisions (root of that word = cide, which means to cut off, or kill) out of a compulsion to be "not that" -- instead of making a choice (this word's original meanings were to taste or to enjoy) out of a truly authentic desire or what we want for ourselves.
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The world opens up... when you do.
"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry "Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia Click here for a Solo Poly view on hierarchical relationships Click here to find out why the Polyamorous Misanthrope is feeling disgusted. |
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Edit -- a post slipped in while I was typing! I'll get to it.
Here's a vital bit of wisdom I discovered along the way.... (I read it in a book long ago. Can't remember which book, and only remember it as a paraphrase.) How your friends treat you (and lovers, too) is how you treat yourself. This sounds ridiculous on the face of it to many, but think about it. You keep them around. If they treat you badly? What does that say about how you treat yourself? You could walk away, right? |
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I said,
" ... whereas authentic action / activity / self-expression ... is always moving from one's true (authentic) self, ... ". I realized that this could be easily taken the wrong way. It would be better to say: " ... whereas authentic action / activity / self-expression ... is always moving as one's true (authentic) self, ... ". This way I don't provide the impression of moving AWAY "from" one's self. |
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Was just thinking of you, Charlie. I wanted to say that someone who may have been you attempted not so long ago to "friend" me on FaceBook (FakeBook?) and I didn't respond. I did not respond because I seem to have an alergy to FB. It's not a horrible alergy; it's just that it represents just one more online way I can use up a bunch of time. I have LOTS of time, but I'm trying to hone in on how to spend it best, etc..., etc....
Okay, now I'll make some popcorn and watch this here movie. |
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