I didn't say it was stalking, I said ithe OP reminded me of a stalker's perspective of their victim's behaviour. Stalkers often believe that their advances are reciprocated or at least wanted, albeit covertly.
Yes, that is what you said. I also agree that it is a valid assessment of the situation, and that it is possible that's what this is. From what I can tell, there aren't any disputes here. Stop causing trouble,
Marcus.
I'm sure many grown ups play these little games instead of communicating in a forthcoming and concise manner. I know some have tried it with me. It's just not my thing. I know how seriously wrong things can go when communication is ineffective so I don't risk it.
I frequently hesitate to communicate attraction or romantic interest. When I do, if the woman isn't interested, or otherwise unable or unwilling to pursue a dating-type situation, things become very awkward and we stop talking soon after. It seems like they're assuming I'm hurt or I won't give up or something and choose to avoid it, which is not the case in the slightest. However, it's difficult to communicate that when I'm pretty much shut out before I get a chance. As a result, my subconscious somehow decided the best way to maintain contact with someone I'm interested in is to avoid the subject of me being interested.
I'm trying to figure out how to not do this. Unlike
rdos, I do not find the experience enjoyable and would much prefer direct, open interaction.
No, it was not creepy. It was a wonderful story. This is kind of what I'm talking about. We've had people here claim "just go up and talk". Seems easy enough (for most people it is easy and natural), while others simply cannot do it that way. Why can't we respect people that need alternative ways of forming relationships instead of calling them for creepy and stalkers?
It wasn't creepy because my dad's ex didn't think it was creepy. Looking at it another way, she made it clear she wanted to keep communication electronic-only at that point. She could have seen him showing up at her workplace and sneaking around as crossing a clearly-defined boundary. If that had happened, it would have been creepy. The point was, whether or not something is creepy is subjective and heavily dependent on context.
Yes, why can't we just ignore things we are not into?
It's human nature. We like people who are similar to us and dislike people who are different.