This is my first poly amorous relationship. I've been married for seven years quite happily, and we have two young children.
I met, fell in love with, and took the leap of unknown to be honest about my feelings with my secondary just over a year ago and it was a new type of relationship for all three of us. My husband has been very supportive the entire time, and we finally have gotten to a point where it feels comfortable. I see my secondary once or twice a week (We have a 'date night') and he even comes over for a movie with myself and hubby once in awhile.
I got a new job around the end of last year and we've known since then we would have to move about an hour an a half away. Since then I've been looking for places and we're finally due to move during the first week of May. In the last couple of weeks, my secondary and I have gotten into some weird arguments over things that are quite trivial. He's really having a problem talking about his feelings at all and I wonder if he's pushing me away because change is coming and we haven't really discussed where it will leave 'us'.
This really is so, so new for me and us and I was wondering if anyone's been in this kind of a situation before, where the relationship with the secondary suddenly becomes long-distance. I don't want him to think that because we are moving (and I feel strongly that I can't break a family apart...also, I really don't know how everyone would feel cohabitation, so I never even went there,) that he means any less to me.
He just today told me he needed a few days off to think about things and feel better. I feel rejected and confused but I do not want to be unsupportive. Any suggestions would be helpful.
I met, fell in love with, and took the leap of unknown to be honest about my feelings with my secondary just over a year ago and it was a new type of relationship for all three of us. My husband has been very supportive the entire time, and we finally have gotten to a point where it feels comfortable. I see my secondary once or twice a week (We have a 'date night') and he even comes over for a movie with myself and hubby once in awhile.
I got a new job around the end of last year and we've known since then we would have to move about an hour an a half away. Since then I've been looking for places and we're finally due to move during the first week of May. In the last couple of weeks, my secondary and I have gotten into some weird arguments over things that are quite trivial. He's really having a problem talking about his feelings at all and I wonder if he's pushing me away because change is coming and we haven't really discussed where it will leave 'us'.
This really is so, so new for me and us and I was wondering if anyone's been in this kind of a situation before, where the relationship with the secondary suddenly becomes long-distance. I don't want him to think that because we are moving (and I feel strongly that I can't break a family apart...also, I really don't know how everyone would feel cohabitation, so I never even went there,) that he means any less to me.
He just today told me he needed a few days off to think about things and feel better. I feel rejected and confused but I do not want to be unsupportive. Any suggestions would be helpful.