LovingRadiance
Active member
Perhaps age is not the issue here? Perhaps it is really the different approaches to poly?....
I know one thing; Poly is often poly's worst advocate. Infighting and petty squabbles make us all look like a joke.....call me the court jester, because I am staying put as long as my Love will have me!....I'll even wear tights
LMAO. Seriously LMAO Mono!
I think you hit the nail on the head with the masking of a different issue.
It's too clear that the "youngun's here are repeating that they don't feel marginalized, so evidently it's not an age issue HERE. It COULD BE somewhere else-but not here and now where you are and not where I am either.
On the other hand it seems obvious that there is a lot of contention also being masked as "well no... you just don't understand..." As I said to GG today amidst tears and strife-if you aren't REAL with someone, upfront and honest about your TRUEST needs/intentions/emotions, then you can't possibly expecte them to understand. So all of this clear contention that isn't identified openly and honestly is pretty........boring to me.
Yes I said boring.
I'm all for fixing issues-but at this point it would seem that the "issue" brought up by this thread, either doesn't exist in this environment (per the responses from the "youngun's who aren't experiencing it) or they are full of crap (no offense intended) and saying that they "feel fine" when they don't.
As there is no way for us to FOR SURE know one way or the other, maybe it's time to move on to topics that DO pertain.... Because as you pointed out-all of this theoretic blah blah is just making the "poly community" look ridiculous on a large scale.
I know I was medicated and under duress-but it seems to me that all of this started with an argument over wether or nor poly included swinging and/or fuck buddies. That argument proved futile as the general concensus was that no one could come to an agreement and so we've moved on to age...
WHO CARES?????
We're freaking PEOPLE as River said, WE'RE ALL JUST F'ING PEOPLE ON PLANET EARTH so lets just agree that there ARE different types of people doing different types of things, with different types of goals, intentions, desires, fears, loves, hurts etc and THAT is ok.
And while we're on the topic-if we're going to keep throwing around the word Marginalization-can someone just start a thread on what the hell marginalization IS so we can come to some sort of understanding on THAT?
Because so far I've read REPEATED posts on "I don't feel or see marginalization of this that or the other kind" in my community and a handful of posts saying it's a huge problem.
I'm not saying that marginalization isn't a problem, but maybe the PROBLEM HERE is that someone(s) feels like they aren't liked.
Why don't we address that specifically in one thread and what marginalization is in another. And while we are at it why don't we invite some mono people to post on what their issues with poly are and what would make them more comfortable learning about it. If we want to be accepted, we need to start educating people OUTSIDE OF THE POLY COMMUNITY and knowing how best to TALK WITH them instead of TO them would be a HUGE step in the right direction. Hell-we could let Mono start that thread!