vinsanity0
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After looking through this part of the forum, I realized that almost all the blogs are by women. I figured I would add a man's perspective, while sorting out my thoughts. I recently had a lot of drama in my life and it has been difficult for me to process it. I think this will help me more than it will help anyone else.
By way of an introduction I guess I will start with the women in my life. First, there is my recent ex-wife, Cat (she loves cats so that is what I'll call her here). She lives in Florida and I am now in Seattle. I used to travel back and forth. We still talk...almost negotiating to see if we will ever get back together. We were together (mostly) for 20 years, though never legally married. We had an open relationship for the last year or so. I do love her, but there is a lot we need to work out.
Next is Mary (calling her that because she is sweet and innocent and plain, but not in a bad way), who was my high school sweetheart. We reconnected via Facebook a few years ago. Unfortunately she is married and monogamous, but says she is still in love with me. She has always had a piece of my heart. She is also very vanilla. She is aware that I am both poly and kinky. She doesn't understand the poly...thinks two people who love each other should only want each other. I think she is starting to get it, as she loves both me and her husband. Unfortunately, she has read 50 Shades and thinks that's what bdsm is. She is very curious about it and I answer her questions as best I can. Our current relationship is long distance as she lives in Ohio. We talk every day. I have visited her once and we did fool around a little.
Next is Elle (short for Elvira because she has beautiful long, dark hair and always wears black). She is 12 years younger than me. I met her through a friend. When she found out I was new in town she offered to show me some cool places to hang out. We became fast friends and eventually fell in love. I was still with Cat when we met and she knew it. She wasn't thrilled with the concept, but we did just start out as friends and it grew from there. When Cat and I split, Elle hoped we might end up mono together. I did consider that (good ole NRE there), but decided against it because she is a bit unstable. Then she backed off and we became more like good friends with benefits. Lately, however, she has become somewhat withdrawn and we barely talk anymore. She did ask me for a ride the other day. On the way to her place we stopped for a drink. She says she is still in love with me, but feels she should stay away because she has "issues". Then we ended up in bed together...lol.
Finally, for now, is Sprite (so named because she is short and cute and...magical). She is 10 years younger. We met on OKC about three weeks ago. After a few emails we switched to texting. We had a lunch date a couple days later. At the end of that she looks at me and asks what do I think. I said I think I'd like to see her again. She said she was free the next evening. We met at her apartment and played. She is the only non-vanilla lady I am seeing at the moment. She is in a W relationship with two married guys, plus has a girlfriend. Unfortunately, this does not leave her with a lot of time for me. We have played twice, and we talk a little every day.
I welcome any questions or comments. After reading some other stories, mine might be a little boring, not as crazy as it feels to me sometimes.
By way of an introduction I guess I will start with the women in my life. First, there is my recent ex-wife, Cat (she loves cats so that is what I'll call her here). She lives in Florida and I am now in Seattle. I used to travel back and forth. We still talk...almost negotiating to see if we will ever get back together. We were together (mostly) for 20 years, though never legally married. We had an open relationship for the last year or so. I do love her, but there is a lot we need to work out.
Next is Mary (calling her that because she is sweet and innocent and plain, but not in a bad way), who was my high school sweetheart. We reconnected via Facebook a few years ago. Unfortunately she is married and monogamous, but says she is still in love with me. She has always had a piece of my heart. She is also very vanilla. She is aware that I am both poly and kinky. She doesn't understand the poly...thinks two people who love each other should only want each other. I think she is starting to get it, as she loves both me and her husband. Unfortunately, she has read 50 Shades and thinks that's what bdsm is. She is very curious about it and I answer her questions as best I can. Our current relationship is long distance as she lives in Ohio. We talk every day. I have visited her once and we did fool around a little.
Next is Elle (short for Elvira because she has beautiful long, dark hair and always wears black). She is 12 years younger than me. I met her through a friend. When she found out I was new in town she offered to show me some cool places to hang out. We became fast friends and eventually fell in love. I was still with Cat when we met and she knew it. She wasn't thrilled with the concept, but we did just start out as friends and it grew from there. When Cat and I split, Elle hoped we might end up mono together. I did consider that (good ole NRE there), but decided against it because she is a bit unstable. Then she backed off and we became more like good friends with benefits. Lately, however, she has become somewhat withdrawn and we barely talk anymore. She did ask me for a ride the other day. On the way to her place we stopped for a drink. She says she is still in love with me, but feels she should stay away because she has "issues". Then we ended up in bed together...lol.
Finally, for now, is Sprite (so named because she is short and cute and...magical). She is 10 years younger. We met on OKC about three weeks ago. After a few emails we switched to texting. We had a lunch date a couple days later. At the end of that she looks at me and asks what do I think. I said I think I'd like to see her again. She said she was free the next evening. We met at her apartment and played. She is the only non-vanilla lady I am seeing at the moment. She is in a W relationship with two married guys, plus has a girlfriend. Unfortunately, this does not leave her with a lot of time for me. We have played twice, and we talk a little every day.
I welcome any questions or comments. After reading some other stories, mine might be a little boring, not as crazy as it feels to me sometimes.
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