My wife and I are in a committed and happy marriage with 2 young kids. We've done the swinging thing a fair amount over the last few years and are both considering what something more significant might be like. Other than CL, I have no idea how to find people who might be interested in exploring something in more depth and I haven't really appreciated those I've found on CL--too much emphasis on immediate sex rather than long term relationship-building. Certainly would love advice from anyone who's made the leap from swinging to polyamory.