One misconception I have regarding the various forms of Polyamory is how the feelings you have for a significant other can be put on hold so to speak.
I realize that this wording is vague and does not accurately describe what I am trying to communicate, but, for argument's sake, I believe this will work.
Within a poly- relationship, I understand how love can be transferred to multiple partners. YouAreHere posted a link (which is listed below) to a blog on another thread I posted. It was very informative and described polyamory as a sort of fountain. This analogy was avery apt. The reason for this thread is hopefully understand how feelings are put on hold.
http://frombaltictoboardwalk.blogspot.com/2014/08/on-analogies-and-love.html
(I recommend reading this external blog. It is well thought-out and very relevant.)
I myself am in a poly- relationship. I describe myself as mono while my girlfriend is poly-. I have started to adept to this situation and am starting to learn how to not be jealous. I know there is a word for this but it has escaped my mind at the moment.
How does one interact with another person without the feelings of another relationship popping into there heads? I imagine something like going to dinner with a partner and possibly comparing the date with other dates with other partners.
I understand how you can love multiple people for different reasons and how it is difficult for one person to fully facilitate all of the needs for an individual. Again, I define myself as mono- and being in a poly- relationship has definitely caused me to redefine my boundaries. I think that this experience, although saying it is an experience makes it sound as if I do not value the relationship, has benefitted me and caused me to grow emotionally.
I guess what I am asking for is guidance and insight into how relationships can be segregated, in a manner of speaking, while remaining relevant. This is probably a very common concern among monos in poly- relationships but I am still new to this and would greatly appreciate help.
Thank you very much for your time and advice. This is my second thread and so far everyone has been extremely helpful and very respectful in regard to my fledgling experience with polyamory.
H
I realize that this wording is vague and does not accurately describe what I am trying to communicate, but, for argument's sake, I believe this will work.
Within a poly- relationship, I understand how love can be transferred to multiple partners. YouAreHere posted a link (which is listed below) to a blog on another thread I posted. It was very informative and described polyamory as a sort of fountain. This analogy was avery apt. The reason for this thread is hopefully understand how feelings are put on hold.
http://frombaltictoboardwalk.blogspot.com/2014/08/on-analogies-and-love.html
(I recommend reading this external blog. It is well thought-out and very relevant.)
I myself am in a poly- relationship. I describe myself as mono while my girlfriend is poly-. I have started to adept to this situation and am starting to learn how to not be jealous. I know there is a word for this but it has escaped my mind at the moment.
How does one interact with another person without the feelings of another relationship popping into there heads? I imagine something like going to dinner with a partner and possibly comparing the date with other dates with other partners.
I understand how you can love multiple people for different reasons and how it is difficult for one person to fully facilitate all of the needs for an individual. Again, I define myself as mono- and being in a poly- relationship has definitely caused me to redefine my boundaries. I think that this experience, although saying it is an experience makes it sound as if I do not value the relationship, has benefitted me and caused me to grow emotionally.
I guess what I am asking for is guidance and insight into how relationships can be segregated, in a manner of speaking, while remaining relevant. This is probably a very common concern among monos in poly- relationships but I am still new to this and would greatly appreciate help.
Thank you very much for your time and advice. This is my second thread and so far everyone has been extremely helpful and very respectful in regard to my fledgling experience with polyamory.
H