monopolylover
New member
I was on this group late last year looking for advice as a mono dating (what I thought) a polyamorist but what later turned out to be just a very mentally disturbed person with a lot of issue using poly as their own personal relationship cattle prod.
I got defensive here when it was repeatedly suggested that the person I was with was not what I thought her to be.
Long story short, i should have taken the advice that was given here. Unfortunately this is one too many relationships I've had with a person claiming to be poly that ended with me being the one who actually could handle a plural relationship like an adult. Which would be great if I was poly but I'm not. The complications, pain and gaming that go into these relationships are just not my bag. If the games and tomfoolery have to exist at all I'd prefer them with just one person at a time.
I got defensive here when it was repeatedly suggested that the person I was with was not what I thought her to be.
Long story short, i should have taken the advice that was given here. Unfortunately this is one too many relationships I've had with a person claiming to be poly that ended with me being the one who actually could handle a plural relationship like an adult. Which would be great if I was poly but I'm not. The complications, pain and gaming that go into these relationships are just not my bag. If the games and tomfoolery have to exist at all I'd prefer them with just one person at a time.