I am married and in my first poly relationship. Ive been with my boyfriend for about four months, and it's his first ploy relationship as well. My question is how do I make him feel like he is important to me and that I value our relationship?
I think he is having difficulty with the fact that we will never marry and raise a family together, and because of what it can never be he feels like his feelings, thoughts, and needs don't matter.
I haved expressed my concern with him and have told him that I want to know his needs and wants so I can try and meet them. His reply was that he doesn't want to be selfish and is afrade of causing issues with me and my husband. Will it just take time for him to adjust? for us to adjust? .
FYI my boyfriend is not with anyone else.
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I think he is having difficulty with the fact that we will never marry and raise a family together, and because of what it can never be he feels like his feelings, thoughts, and needs don't matter.
I haved expressed my concern with him and have told him that I want to know his needs and wants so I can try and meet them. His reply was that he doesn't want to be selfish and is afrade of causing issues with me and my husband. Will it just take time for him to adjust? for us to adjust? .
FYI my boyfriend is not with anyone else.
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