PinkPig
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Can we talk about polysaturation and how to maintain balance, boundaries, and commitments to current relationship(s) while pursuing new relationships? My questions specifically are:
* How do you determine your saturation level?
* Have you had to walk away from a new interest because you did not have the time/energy to devote to the relationship without adversely affecting existing relationship(s)?
* How do you honor your commitment to existing relationship(s) while pursuing new relationship(s)? (especially within the context of NRE for the new relationship(s)?)
* Have you lost existing partners because of new relationships?
* Care to share any mistakes you've made and wisdom you've gained from those mistakes?
* Any other thoughts or wisdom you care to share?
My partner Blue is currently not dating anyone else (is on OKC.) He's dated a few different women during our time together and he does a good job of balancing two relationships...and a good job of pushing some of his NRE into our relationship. I have no complaints. Myself, I'm not so sure. I've tried to date a couple times but find it too time consuming. And yet, I keep finding myself back on OKC looking through profiles. What I'd really like is a female FWB to hang out with occasionally when Blue is dating and my kids are gone but I'm not sure how to (1) find that and (2) keep it in the FWB realm so that it doesn't affect my otherwise busy schedule? Reading the blogs and hearing about people who effectively manage more than 2 relationships while maintaining well, life, makes me curious. How do they do it, lol, when I can't even figure out how to do two relationships?
For anyone interested, I found the following helpful on the topic (but I'd still like to hear how others handle it.):
Falling in love, more than 2
The Flip side of saturation
A Follow up on saturation
* How do you determine your saturation level?
* Have you had to walk away from a new interest because you did not have the time/energy to devote to the relationship without adversely affecting existing relationship(s)?
* How do you honor your commitment to existing relationship(s) while pursuing new relationship(s)? (especially within the context of NRE for the new relationship(s)?)
* Have you lost existing partners because of new relationships?
* Care to share any mistakes you've made and wisdom you've gained from those mistakes?
* Any other thoughts or wisdom you care to share?
My partner Blue is currently not dating anyone else (is on OKC.) He's dated a few different women during our time together and he does a good job of balancing two relationships...and a good job of pushing some of his NRE into our relationship. I have no complaints. Myself, I'm not so sure. I've tried to date a couple times but find it too time consuming. And yet, I keep finding myself back on OKC looking through profiles. What I'd really like is a female FWB to hang out with occasionally when Blue is dating and my kids are gone but I'm not sure how to (1) find that and (2) keep it in the FWB realm so that it doesn't affect my otherwise busy schedule? Reading the blogs and hearing about people who effectively manage more than 2 relationships while maintaining well, life, makes me curious. How do they do it, lol, when I can't even figure out how to do two relationships?
For anyone interested, I found the following helpful on the topic (but I'd still like to hear how others handle it.):
Falling in love, more than 2
The Flip side of saturation
A Follow up on saturation