just3
New member
We are very new to this. After my hubs and I have enjoyed almost 12 years of marriage with just us. And then discussing different ideas over the past year(including swinging..) I couldnt do it. I guess I have to have a connection to someone before having sexual encounters. But around a month ago we discussed it again and I made a suggestion of adding someone who I have held feelings for, for many years. My hubs and this guy have known each other since they were very little. And I have known the both of them since I was a teen. And this is someone I dated for awhile back then. Im happy with this choice. My now bf has always loved me so it makes me a lot more comfortable. I know when we we all decided to get together I wanted someone who would not mind being around us both. And someone even my hubs would be comfy hanging out with. With the fact they were both friends so long makes it a lot easier. I have read a lot on here to see how everyone works out their relationships. I have gone to see my bf alone and talk to him daily. We have also hung out together at the park with our kids. I would like most of our together time to actually be all 3 of us(neither one of them are bi but both dont care about being near each others junk lol) We are all pretty comfortable around each other.
Mainly I was wondering how most people do this? Do you keep them separate or together most the time? Or mix it up...
I welcome any advice and will continue looking around here.
Mainly I was wondering how most people do this? Do you keep them separate or together most the time? Or mix it up...
I welcome any advice and will continue looking around here.