I hope this who post can help others as they go down the Rabbit hole!!
I have never experienced so many different emotions with others working out what we all want in such a short time ( A few days). I had zero knowledge on this subject just a few days ago and with all your help i have been able to navigate the water much easier...
I knew it wouldn't be easy but we shall carry on!
So just to clear some things up i see now laying down the law was not the right way to go about it and have since rectified it. (Hey! its a learning curve).
Greg and Peaches are indeed playing casually with Alice! (keep up people lol) however Cupcake and i suspect Greg and Alice have a Romantic emotional attachment to each other. Also i was dead wrong about being one big Poly happy family! this is not as serious as that, it is more playtime for us 4 and a see how it goes with Greg and Cupcake. I have identified my self as definitely happy with cupcake and more than happy for her to have an emotional attachment to Greg or relationship. We have all discussed that's about as far as it goes at this stage, Peaches and i are more than happy for them to Date so we give our consent to that.
It's all in a state of flux and someone earlier suggested but its a good start! as for Peaches and i she is like me just into non monogamy and we don't see each other as getting involved in a relationship together, just happy to stay close friends and support our partners. give them space etc.
However.. that being said we do have adult tendencies if you catch my drift and when Liquor is often involved Cupcake and i feel if 2 want to play we all play. Is that such a bad thing as long as we have no regrets?
There is no forcing anyone to play, we choose to go into this (What ever it is or becomes) cleanly with honest and open communication and Cupcake is aware of my post and knows she can read anytime
I wanna be real honest with you guys so i may have left 2 details out of the scenario as i thought it might be over sharing at the time but can see it's probably important if i want honest constructive feedback..
1- Greg and Peaches have marital issues they are working thru, they don't wish to break up their family but do argue more than Cupcake and i ever would. Greg has a few emo issues and a part time drinking problem hes getting help with.
I have cautioned this to cupcake as ideally i'd like for Greg and Peaches to have a rock solid relationship but as its all new and exciting out in the open now (No longer cheating) so she wants to keep things slow and see how it goes and also the 3 month break was for all of us to clear our heads and in that time Cupcake and i have moved house some long distance away but it may only be for a few years (work purposes). We only get to see Peaches and Greg 4-5 times a year.
Few thoughts - After Greg/Peaches dropped the bombshell that they are sleeping with another woman (Alice) Cupcake feels she has been replaced and can't fathom being 3rd in a relationship with Greg, he does not see it that way tho..he admits he loves her but in a different way i just don't want cupcake to get hurt. Cupcake can be the jealous type and is already getting teary when Greg admits he spends a lot of time with Alice.
We are already planning a trip over their way soon so we can all sit down together and talk face to face and whilst over there i'd like Greg and Cupcake to go out on a date for the first time as they haven't had that chance.
I have never experienced so many different emotions with others working out what we all want in such a short time ( A few days). I had zero knowledge on this subject just a few days ago and with all your help i have been able to navigate the water much easier...
I knew it wouldn't be easy but we shall carry on!
So just to clear some things up i see now laying down the law was not the right way to go about it and have since rectified it. (Hey! its a learning curve).
Greg and Peaches are indeed playing casually with Alice! (keep up people lol) however Cupcake and i suspect Greg and Alice have a Romantic emotional attachment to each other. Also i was dead wrong about being one big Poly happy family! this is not as serious as that, it is more playtime for us 4 and a see how it goes with Greg and Cupcake. I have identified my self as definitely happy with cupcake and more than happy for her to have an emotional attachment to Greg or relationship. We have all discussed that's about as far as it goes at this stage, Peaches and i are more than happy for them to Date so we give our consent to that.
It's all in a state of flux and someone earlier suggested but its a good start! as for Peaches and i she is like me just into non monogamy and we don't see each other as getting involved in a relationship together, just happy to stay close friends and support our partners. give them space etc.
However.. that being said we do have adult tendencies if you catch my drift and when Liquor is often involved Cupcake and i feel if 2 want to play we all play. Is that such a bad thing as long as we have no regrets?
There is no forcing anyone to play, we choose to go into this (What ever it is or becomes) cleanly with honest and open communication and Cupcake is aware of my post and knows she can read anytime
I wanna be real honest with you guys so i may have left 2 details out of the scenario as i thought it might be over sharing at the time but can see it's probably important if i want honest constructive feedback..
1- Greg and Peaches have marital issues they are working thru, they don't wish to break up their family but do argue more than Cupcake and i ever would. Greg has a few emo issues and a part time drinking problem hes getting help with.
I have cautioned this to cupcake as ideally i'd like for Greg and Peaches to have a rock solid relationship but as its all new and exciting out in the open now (No longer cheating) so she wants to keep things slow and see how it goes and also the 3 month break was for all of us to clear our heads and in that time Cupcake and i have moved house some long distance away but it may only be for a few years (work purposes). We only get to see Peaches and Greg 4-5 times a year.
Few thoughts - After Greg/Peaches dropped the bombshell that they are sleeping with another woman (Alice) Cupcake feels she has been replaced and can't fathom being 3rd in a relationship with Greg, he does not see it that way tho..he admits he loves her but in a different way i just don't want cupcake to get hurt. Cupcake can be the jealous type and is already getting teary when Greg admits he spends a lot of time with Alice.
We are already planning a trip over their way soon so we can all sit down together and talk face to face and whilst over there i'd like Greg and Cupcake to go out on a date for the first time as they haven't had that chance.