Ravenscroft
Banned
I'm weeding out my (rather too extensive) library, & re-reading a few books that influenced my personal formulation of "responsible nonmonogamy" decades ago.
Compared to then, 2005 onward is like the Poly Renaissance, with lots & lots of books specific to the topic. Before 1990, there was pretty much NOTHING out there.
Many of my books are about interpersonal relating, the socalled "Sexual Revolution" (which I believe we lost ), community-building, problem-solving, & economics.
When I look around at all the books presently relating to polyamory, there's a surfeit of "Poly 1-01" books, & some "Poly 1-02."
...but, really, anything beyond "freshman level" is rare.
ALmost entirely, it's a matter of "follow this checklist, & if it doesn't work, then dump their sorry ass & try again, or twist your hopes until you can cram everything into standard packaging."
To me, that's distressingly close to Monogamism -- one size SHOULD fit all, & what's wrong with YOU?
I'd enjoy seeing (maybe even teaching) seminars in creative problem-solving, in deep multilateral communication skills, in self-awareness, in group-therapy dynamics, in community-building. In classes at the "senior level" & beyond.
Maybe I'll start a thread to demonstrate how a book about developing corporate management skills is directly relevant to polyamory specifically & nonmonogamy in general.
Meantime, has anyone else experienced such hopes, to continue learning & evolving?
Compared to then, 2005 onward is like the Poly Renaissance, with lots & lots of books specific to the topic. Before 1990, there was pretty much NOTHING out there.
Many of my books are about interpersonal relating, the socalled "Sexual Revolution" (which I believe we lost ), community-building, problem-solving, & economics.
When I look around at all the books presently relating to polyamory, there's a surfeit of "Poly 1-01" books, & some "Poly 1-02."
...but, really, anything beyond "freshman level" is rare.
ALmost entirely, it's a matter of "follow this checklist, & if it doesn't work, then dump their sorry ass & try again, or twist your hopes until you can cram everything into standard packaging."
To me, that's distressingly close to Monogamism -- one size SHOULD fit all, & what's wrong with YOU?
I'd enjoy seeing (maybe even teaching) seminars in creative problem-solving, in deep multilateral communication skills, in self-awareness, in group-therapy dynamics, in community-building. In classes at the "senior level" & beyond.
Maybe I'll start a thread to demonstrate how a book about developing corporate management skills is directly relevant to polyamory specifically & nonmonogamy in general.
Meantime, has anyone else experienced such hopes, to continue learning & evolving?