stargazer23
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I don't even try to differ between jealousy and envy...they're both just words that mean nearly the same thing except maybe envy is associated a little more with wanting something specific that another has and jealousy is just a generalized dissatisfaction with the circumstances of someone else having things better than you.
I feel like both are occasionally unavoidable, normal human emotions. What defines character is how you deal with them.
When a lover of mine starts taking time out to love others, will I feel wantful? Will it sting? Maybe at first, but my desire to see that person happy and fulfilled trumps any illogical selfish feelings. My desire for a deep, multifaceted, multi-dimensional compersive love outweighs any desire to cling to childish, one-dimensional reactions. I know in my heart that to keep a lover as a pet in a cage does not please either of us because what you have is a relationship with a set of rules--the cage itself, not its occupants.
With logic and reassurance, the sting will be fleeting and the sexy, happy, excited vibe coming from the beloved (who is realizing his dreams) will fulfill me to the point where I can easily see myself growing to love his others.
I think it's important both for the envious to keep themselves in check and for the others in the relationship to behave in a mature, responsible, sensitive fashion...within reason. Reassurances and making sure everyone gets their needs fairly and reasonably met should be the goal here.
I feel like both are occasionally unavoidable, normal human emotions. What defines character is how you deal with them.
When a lover of mine starts taking time out to love others, will I feel wantful? Will it sting? Maybe at first, but my desire to see that person happy and fulfilled trumps any illogical selfish feelings. My desire for a deep, multifaceted, multi-dimensional compersive love outweighs any desire to cling to childish, one-dimensional reactions. I know in my heart that to keep a lover as a pet in a cage does not please either of us because what you have is a relationship with a set of rules--the cage itself, not its occupants.
With logic and reassurance, the sting will be fleeting and the sexy, happy, excited vibe coming from the beloved (who is realizing his dreams) will fulfill me to the point where I can easily see myself growing to love his others.
I think it's important both for the envious to keep themselves in check and for the others in the relationship to behave in a mature, responsible, sensitive fashion...within reason. Reassurances and making sure everyone gets their needs fairly and reasonably met should be the goal here.