My wife and I are a year and a few months into our journey. In that time we went from conservative (married 16 years, virgins when we met), to curious, to looking at swinging, (didn't happen) to a 10 month and counting relationship with another couple. . . .Reading peoples experiences helped us craft a set of rules that we followed to get where we are without excessive drama. Reading real experiences (both for and against) helped more than all of the "professional opinions" that we could find on the subject.