Hello all!
This is my first post on here (besides my intro). I am pretty shy and was hoping to lurk a little, but there's no time for that in life, haha.
So, here goes! My husband and I have been married for 10 years. It was a whirlwind romance that still has me head over heels for him today. I, however, have come to believe that my capacity to love more than one person is larger than I ever thought. We have talked about becoming poly for about 5 years now and have finally decided to go for it. While I am really excited to start on our new chapter, my husband is much more hesitant. He was raised similar to myself, only seeing monogamous relationships and was always told that you find your one person and stay loyal and faithful forever. I have been able to see past this with lots of soul searching, while he's doing his best to overcome being slightly possessive (as was shown to him by his father with his mother). While it does bother him to think about me being with someone else initially (sexually, that is), he does like the idea of having someone in addition to me to help fulfill needs that I lack in. How do I help him come to terms with this as a new life choice for us? He wants this to work out, he thinks that the idea of actually bringing in another male and female into our family as the end goal would be great. I think it's the actual dating and being with other people for the first time ever that freaks him out. Your advice and guidance is GREATLY appreciated and know he will be reading the responses as well so feel free to talk directly to him if you'd like. Thank you all!!
This is my first post on here (besides my intro). I am pretty shy and was hoping to lurk a little, but there's no time for that in life, haha.
So, here goes! My husband and I have been married for 10 years. It was a whirlwind romance that still has me head over heels for him today. I, however, have come to believe that my capacity to love more than one person is larger than I ever thought. We have talked about becoming poly for about 5 years now and have finally decided to go for it. While I am really excited to start on our new chapter, my husband is much more hesitant. He was raised similar to myself, only seeing monogamous relationships and was always told that you find your one person and stay loyal and faithful forever. I have been able to see past this with lots of soul searching, while he's doing his best to overcome being slightly possessive (as was shown to him by his father with his mother). While it does bother him to think about me being with someone else initially (sexually, that is), he does like the idea of having someone in addition to me to help fulfill needs that I lack in. How do I help him come to terms with this as a new life choice for us? He wants this to work out, he thinks that the idea of actually bringing in another male and female into our family as the end goal would be great. I think it's the actual dating and being with other people for the first time ever that freaks him out. Your advice and guidance is GREATLY appreciated and know he will be reading the responses as well so feel free to talk directly to him if you'd like. Thank you all!!