I have been in an open relationship for about 7 months now and am in a long distance relationship with my primary partner who I've been with for 5 years. We have a very honest, non-jealous open relationship which is wonderful. The only problem is that I've realized as the months have gone on, that the amazing sex I have with my new partner is not just because of the excitement of a new relationship. We continue to have amazing sex, consistently amazing sex, every single time. Which we both say is the best we've ever had with anyone else. I attribute this primarily to how attracted I am to this new person physically, if not as much (though it's still there) emotionally, as well as the fact that we both enjoy the same things in the bedroom.
My primary partner is not as attractive to me physically even though emotionally I love them much more and they are my perfect complement in every emotional and intellectual way. We have of course had great sex, because love is a very powerful thing, and I do find them attractive, just not as much.
I'm concerned by how I will feel if I choose to marry my primary partner as we will likely close our relationship when we are no longer long distance. I worry that they will feel lesser because they do not turn me on in the same way, or that I will feel unsatisfied. Either of these things could turn to resentment from both sides. We have already experienced mild versions of this causing tension between us. This is also a difficult thing to 'work on' because how do you tell someone "you don't intrinsically turn me on as much, so I'd like to figure out how to have better sex"?? But I really would like to figure out how to have better sex with them, without anyone's feelings getting hurt.
I want to raise a family with ONE life partner, and just want to make sure I find the right person to do that with. I want that person to be right in as many ways as possible (ideally I would want one's personality in the other's body), but right now I'm wondering if that is too much to ask?
My primary partner is not as attractive to me physically even though emotionally I love them much more and they are my perfect complement in every emotional and intellectual way. We have of course had great sex, because love is a very powerful thing, and I do find them attractive, just not as much.
I'm concerned by how I will feel if I choose to marry my primary partner as we will likely close our relationship when we are no longer long distance. I worry that they will feel lesser because they do not turn me on in the same way, or that I will feel unsatisfied. Either of these things could turn to resentment from both sides. We have already experienced mild versions of this causing tension between us. This is also a difficult thing to 'work on' because how do you tell someone "you don't intrinsically turn me on as much, so I'd like to figure out how to have better sex"?? But I really would like to figure out how to have better sex with them, without anyone's feelings getting hurt.
I want to raise a family with ONE life partner, and just want to make sure I find the right person to do that with. I want that person to be right in as many ways as possible (ideally I would want one's personality in the other's body), but right now I'm wondering if that is too much to ask?