Mohegan
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Also babe think about how many times she lied to people because she didn't want to face something. Didn't want to admit she was wrong about something. Didn't want to admit she was the cause of someone getting hurt.
I don't think she has a very good grasp on reality and is spouting off whatever she can to convince herself and anyone who will listen that she's not the bad guy.
Look at the histroy of how she talks about people she dated. They are all horrible monsters who did horrible mean things to her. I think in her mind it is easier to believe that, than admit that she played some part in it. Hell J was one of those horrible evil monsters and yet she's now claiming how wonderful he is. Most of the shit she has said about you, she said about J. I think they are her go to exscuses. Just like she wants to blame you for D. You and I both told her he was bad news and the day after she says she not sleeping with anyone, she sleeps with him and tells you over an e-mail. How is any of that your fault?
It's like arguing with your mother. She's so convinced her bulshit is reality nothing is going to change her mind. There's no logic or basis to any of it.
You did what you could. And she got mad that you weren't a mind reader. She got mad that she didn't have any business being in a relationship in the first place (if she was realy as traumatised as she claims).
You need to not worry about what she thinks of you, because I doubt she even believes the bullshit she spouts off. But I do find it interesting that after all the lies she's spread and the drama she's caused, you still care about her and about what she thinks of you. I think that is one more point of proof that you aren't the monster she wants to believe you are.
You're better than that, you deserve better than that and you have better than that.
Let her live in fantasy land the same as you have done with your mom.
I wish I knew how to help you. I wish I had the magic wand that would help you move on and not care what she thinks of you. Because she's not worth that time or energy.
I don't think she has a very good grasp on reality and is spouting off whatever she can to convince herself and anyone who will listen that she's not the bad guy.
Look at the histroy of how she talks about people she dated. They are all horrible monsters who did horrible mean things to her. I think in her mind it is easier to believe that, than admit that she played some part in it. Hell J was one of those horrible evil monsters and yet she's now claiming how wonderful he is. Most of the shit she has said about you, she said about J. I think they are her go to exscuses. Just like she wants to blame you for D. You and I both told her he was bad news and the day after she says she not sleeping with anyone, she sleeps with him and tells you over an e-mail. How is any of that your fault?
It's like arguing with your mother. She's so convinced her bulshit is reality nothing is going to change her mind. There's no logic or basis to any of it.
You did what you could. And she got mad that you weren't a mind reader. She got mad that she didn't have any business being in a relationship in the first place (if she was realy as traumatised as she claims).
You need to not worry about what she thinks of you, because I doubt she even believes the bullshit she spouts off. But I do find it interesting that after all the lies she's spread and the drama she's caused, you still care about her and about what she thinks of you. I think that is one more point of proof that you aren't the monster she wants to believe you are.
You're better than that, you deserve better than that and you have better than that.
Let her live in fantasy land the same as you have done with your mom.
I wish I knew how to help you. I wish I had the magic wand that would help you move on and not care what she thinks of you. Because she's not worth that time or energy.
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