hi there i'm Kyle Beci's spouse
Evening everyone I'm Kyle. Beci's spouse and I'd like to have my say on this because she is not telling everyone the entire truth. First off she refuses to leave. I've asked her in the beginning to leave. Cause I really don;t want to be in a poly relationship or be in a relationship with someone who is. we went 6 years with it never being mentioned.
This is something people may not get we had a relationship for 6 years, with no indication of her being Poly or there being any rift between us. This pretty much started out of no where with no warning or for thought.
So yes its hard to understand and accept. So i asked her to leave. she is the one unhappy with me. she is the one feeling need to have other partners. then stop stringing me along and leave. I've dropped to my knees and begged her to leave to stop but she refuses to. No she rather i leave. loose her . my home and my kids all because I don't want to share me wife. I feel if she loves me as much as she says she dose. she would leave and go make her self happy. cause she is not happy with me.
Yes don'y let her fool you. she is unhappy with me. she feels not sexual desire or want from me. but stays anyways and seeks out others. I don't know why but i feel if she is that unhappy and wants to be with other men. she should be the one to leave and not me.
If i make her so unhappy sexually the door is open leave don;t comeback.
Also the lack of trust is because she never keeps her word. we make agreements with me and she never fellows them. her first partner she promised to wear condoms. we agreed with this but she refused to. lord knows she could have contracted a disease and killed me and out 2 beautiful little girls i get home from work to find out she is planning on leaving when I got to sleep to go fuck some guy. She dose this a lot, I work nights so I'm tired when I come home in the morning. she uses that time to go find guys while I sleep instead of being with me and working on us she would rather choose them over me. Like i'm the secondary relationship and their the primary. she has ignored me so she can be with another person. It hurts to think I work all night to come home to my family only to have the love of my life demand i go to sleep so she can go out and meet guys. and I find out when i wake up. Yeah that is really fair.
This has been what lead me to police her she dose not discuss or disclose anything with me. She used the poly term only to her advantage and dose not understand what it fully means or refuses to teat me correctly by it. I don't want to shadow or police her but if I don"t I wake up finding out things I don't want to. She never communicates anything with me. but hides and sneaks using my work and my sleep as a tool to hurt me.
All because of sexual issues. because i gained a lot of weight. i gave up on life and ate and ate and hid my pain away insted of talking about it I killed my self. I know its not great but I happened and I'm trying to fix it. but she claims she loves me and dose all these thing with me but she dose not. she is lying to you people. she pushes me away and spends her time with others. I understand I'm fat but i deserve love as well Mrs poly. you have no issue giving love and sex and happyness to others just not me.
your right its not her job to make me happy, but she should want to knowing the ammount of hurt she puts me through. i feel she should want to work on us make us a stronger unit so i can be more accepting, i can fight my jealousy and my worries kicking them aside, not allowing them to judge or control my fears or my self. But she refuses to put any work at all.
For that reason I act the way I do. I know its not right but its very hard to control. I want t i just don't feel our relationship is where its need to be. I don't feel safe or sacure in us. because she is never willing to work on us
These are simply a few things, so now you know both sides