Like the title says i am new to poly. It has been a long time since I have been in any relationship and I have started a relationship with a girl who is in a open relationship. I have known both of them (her and her husband) for a few years now. The first 2 weeks where great there was a lot of conversation and spending time together. These last 2 weeks have been stressful for both of us and the conversation has almost stopped now.
This week she told me that her last BF has started texting her and may want to start their relationship back up again. She already said that having 2 BFs most likely will not work. I will not see or talk with her in the next month or so since she will be with her family on vacation. So now i have to wait to see if I will still be her BF or just be friends. She has mentioned that she does not want to go any farther in our relationship until she knows what her last BF wants. She is giving her last BF a few weeks to make up his mind. I do not know what to do. i feel like i am going crazy. Do i wait? Do i just stop this relationship?
Also running through my head is what if the last BF comes back after a few months will she stop our relationship to be with him. I will have to talk with her about this if we continue our relationship.
Sorry if this post jumps around a lot. I have not had much sleep in the past few days.
This week she told me that her last BF has started texting her and may want to start their relationship back up again. She already said that having 2 BFs most likely will not work. I will not see or talk with her in the next month or so since she will be with her family on vacation. So now i have to wait to see if I will still be her BF or just be friends. She has mentioned that she does not want to go any farther in our relationship until she knows what her last BF wants. She is giving her last BF a few weeks to make up his mind. I do not know what to do. i feel like i am going crazy. Do i wait? Do i just stop this relationship?
Also running through my head is what if the last BF comes back after a few months will she stop our relationship to be with him. I will have to talk with her about this if we continue our relationship.
Sorry if this post jumps around a lot. I have not had much sleep in the past few days.