nycindie
Active member
Haha, I have heard of the "turd in the punchbowl" or "turd in my ice cream" analogies.
No relationship ever stays the same. That would be stagnation. Even if this had not happened, your relationship will never be what it once was. We all change, grow, and evolve, and relationships are not meant to go backwards. So, ending the relationship because it can't be what it was is not totally realistic. It's unfortunate that this happened and you are feeling hurt by it, but it's on you now to forgive and let go of the hurt if you want to work on moving forward together and making it a new relationship. Really, that's what everyone needs to do in all love relationships -- create them anew every day, every moment. "Starting over" with someone else is certainly no guarantee of never being hurt again.I am too hurt right now to know and still clinging to what we had before this mess. The loss of that relationship as I knew it is still too painful and devastating to process. Even with the many things we can salvage and the unlimited possibilities of what we can build in the future, it is going to take some time to decide if I even want that. I want what we had and I can never have that with veganchick. Starting over with someone else would at least allow the hope of having something that special again.
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