hello, my name is echo and i have been with my husband for 7 years in a monogomus relationship. Just recently i was able to open up to him and express myself, and explain my needs and desires. I have always been pansexual and i am VERY interested in women. I love my husband but he does not fufill my sexual needs that i desire from a woman. At first i was met with a huge hell no, but after talking over things he has realized that maybe there is more to life and love than just this. So long story short, we have kind of found some one we are interested in. we are all getting along great, and i have so much compersion for this new found joy, watching my husband light up when she texts him. (btw, i have been with this woman once, we have seen eachother 4 times, my husband has yet to meet her but they text) i love the conversations my husband and i have had about this, and i love the thought of it all working out into a strong healthy triad. For some reason tho, for the last two days i have been drowning in feelings of sorrow, loss, a slight bit of jealousy, and fear. Im amazingly greatful for how much just talking about this with my husband has broke down some walls and really opened up our relationship and how much closer it has brought us. I also know that the feelings i am having are just old habbits dying hard, but i cannot help but feel like crying my eyes out over this overwhelming awesome situation that some how has me worried, even tho it feels so right and i know what i want. I guess what i am getting at is, is there any of you who felt this confliction? and how did you get passed it? i dont want either of my lovers to feel like im not happy in this bc i soooo am, but i just cannot seem to shake the fear of the unknown, the fear ill be left out, or the fear he will love her more. I want this, but im just nervous, i guess im just looking for some support, some advice.....im so happy and so sad, its drving me nuts to be in this crazy vicious circle of emotion with myself. Im sure im just being selfish, and clingy, and maybe im just letting my mono mind scare my polly mind....idk....any words???