nycindie
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how safe is actually doing that for most people and do you need training for that sort of thing?~
Can't you Google that?
how safe is actually doing that for most people and do you need training for that sort of thing?~
That's ok, as long as we can stay on-topic.~
Question, I have seen some full-bodysuits of latex being used during a porno and I thought it was very hot or sexy:
how safe is actually doing that for most people and do you need training for that sort of thing?~
Go ahead and join Fetlife. It's a place where you can read threads galore on just about any kink you can imagine (I think scat and pedos aren't welcome, though I have heard scat mentioned..). It's kind of like Facebook for kinky people.
Scat is now against the TOU of Fet (used to not be so there are older mentions in places). Basically scat, bestiality, incest, and anything underage is not allowed on Fet.
It is a good learning place if you are curious about things.
A question I thought of. Does anyone here, either from personal or knowing someone who has, know much about people using aspects of BDSM for a therapy almost of some sort? One of the things Seven and I had talked about was possibly eventually doing knife play to help get my head to stop connecting the feeling of scratching/cutting of something to do when I'm depressed.
A question I thought of. Does anyone here, either from personal or knowing someone who has, know much about people using aspects of BDSM for a therapy almost of some sort? One of the things Seven and I had talked about was possibly eventually doing knife play to help get my head to stop connecting the feeling of scratching/cutting of something to do when I'm depressed.
A Cat Scratching Post?~ I'm serious.~
You really aren't getting it. I think you would be better off doing some research at FetLife and other kink sites before making glib comments like that when someone posts with a serious question about a serious issue. I am not really a kinkster, but curious about it, and whenever I have come to this thread with questions and given my opinions on things, I've always done so with respect. I would recommend you do the same, because your last two posts in this thread didn't come across as nice, respectful, or even seriously curious.
I haven't. I'll look and see if it's on half.com for a price I can afford (or if the local sex+ coffee shop has it in their library)I thought that was one of the main points of BDSM... therapy. Have you read http://www.amazon.com/The-Bottoming-Book-Janet-Hardy/dp/1890159352/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
I thought that was one of the main points of BDSM... therapy. Have you read http://www.amazon.com/The-Bottoming-Book-Janet-Hardy/dp/1890159352/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
I have found it therapeutic. Not for cutting-I don't do knife play.
But addressing emotional residual issues due to a prior violent encounter & also my phobia of water/suffocation.
BDSM for me is not about therapy or self-improvement or similar goals. It's fun and sexy. People do use it for therapy. But, IMHO, they are playing with fire.
I have problems with the idea of BDSM as therapy. It can have that effect for many people. But generally, if you [generic you] need therapy, then go to a therapist. (I know this is not easy or readily available.) I think the risks for BDSM as therapy can be high. For example, I can see the scenario CattivaGattina of having Seven using knife play and cutting to address her urges to cut as possibly going really badly and causing more damage. It could also go just fine or have little effect. There is no way to know. And that is a problem. Yes, therapy can be hit or miss too. But it is unlikely to re-traumatize someone the way an intense BDSM scene gone badly wrong can.
I adore knife play. It is one of my favorite things. BDSM for me is not about therapy or self-improvement or similar goals. It's fun and sexy. People do use it for therapy. But, IMHO, they are playing with fire.
I adore knife play. It is one of my favorite things. BDSM for me is not about therapy or self-improvement or similar goals. It's fun and sexy. People do use it for therapy. But, IMHO, they are playing with fire.
I believe it was in the Bottoming book where an author talks specifically about a woman who was raped, and how when she chose to do "rape play" in a consensual gangbang situation, after years of ordinary therapy, it finally helped her to overcome the original trauma and make her feel empowered once again
For the issues it has helped with, I have already done therapy. I was already on track for healthy patterns. The dynamic allowed for a bit deeper intensity on a more personal level, but it wasn't a replacement for therapy.