So I've made some bad decisions lately that were unkind to hubby (T). T's being upset with me upset (B) as he felt he influenced my actions. In truth he did but I was the one who made selfish decisions. It wasn't like he said "Hey, do these things with me & who cares how T feels." T & I have worked things out but B was acting strangely. T & B are becoming friends & genuinely like each other so B has no intention of causing hurt to him or conflict between T & I.
B & I talked last night & he explained to me why he had been distant/weird a few times in the last few days. I explained to B that I don't want to lose what I have in either relationship. He assured me that if things are good between T & I vs me not considering T's feelings then B & my relationship will fall into line. At any rate, I have decided to put T's needs over my wants. I have some internal conflict with this as my nature is to be selfish. I'm an extremely giving, caring person but I'm also selfish which are two sides of my personality that conflict.
Loving someone to me means being kind & considerate. I made mistakes but I owned them with no excuses. Now I just have to get everything back into balance & regain my zen.
I guess I'm not really looking for advice here I just wanted to vent to people who might understand.
B & I talked last night & he explained to me why he had been distant/weird a few times in the last few days. I explained to B that I don't want to lose what I have in either relationship. He assured me that if things are good between T & I vs me not considering T's feelings then B & my relationship will fall into line. At any rate, I have decided to put T's needs over my wants. I have some internal conflict with this as my nature is to be selfish. I'm an extremely giving, caring person but I'm also selfish which are two sides of my personality that conflict.
Loving someone to me means being kind & considerate. I made mistakes but I owned them with no excuses. Now I just have to get everything back into balance & regain my zen.
I guess I'm not really looking for advice here I just wanted to vent to people who might understand.