I wasnt sure how to title this thread. please bare with me!
I met a wonderful guy about 7 months ago. He made it clear he wasnt looking for anything serious but he was interested in a poly d/s relationship to include but not limited to two subs for close friendship and sexual play.
I am used to being a sister sub and iv been craving a dominate so this seemed like an almost perfect arrangement. I have been in a rainbow of relationships and i feel like my very wild oats have been sown. Ideally i would like to break ground and put down roots with someone who wants to settle, who wants to build our relationship as well as explore whom might complete us.
As time has progressed hes opened up about his issues with relationships. He was married for a decade and she wrecked his life; I can appreciate how one could become jaded that way. He has also made it clear hes in love with a women he met online who is unhappily married. Hes confessed that he is waiting for her.
I can accept all this for many reasons however naive i find his decision. I try not to judge people who are finding their way.
My question is this: Iv become rather attached to him and i dont know if its healthy to put myself through falling for him. Should i go with the flow and let the chips fall where they may or should i cut my looses and direct my energy to fulfilling what i need in a relationship?
I met a wonderful guy about 7 months ago. He made it clear he wasnt looking for anything serious but he was interested in a poly d/s relationship to include but not limited to two subs for close friendship and sexual play.
I am used to being a sister sub and iv been craving a dominate so this seemed like an almost perfect arrangement. I have been in a rainbow of relationships and i feel like my very wild oats have been sown. Ideally i would like to break ground and put down roots with someone who wants to settle, who wants to build our relationship as well as explore whom might complete us.
As time has progressed hes opened up about his issues with relationships. He was married for a decade and she wrecked his life; I can appreciate how one could become jaded that way. He has also made it clear hes in love with a women he met online who is unhappily married. Hes confessed that he is waiting for her.
I can accept all this for many reasons however naive i find his decision. I try not to judge people who are finding their way.
My question is this: Iv become rather attached to him and i dont know if its healthy to put myself through falling for him. Should i go with the flow and let the chips fall where they may or should i cut my looses and direct my energy to fulfilling what i need in a relationship?