LovingRadiance
Active member
Every person has a different set of values. I can understand why someone would value their children more than their other stuff, but I think it's sort of pompous arrogance to assume that children MUST be the center of someone's existence.
Well I have to agree that it would be particularly silly (in my mind) if someone who had no kids and wasn't really involved seriously in the lives of of children made the idea of kids the center of their existence.... well and a waste of time too.
For me-they are certainly the most important part of my life-until they are grown-as they had no choice in being in my life and I need to ensure that my decisions don't damage them if at all possible.
My sister has no children-but she's helped in the raising and day to day care of mine, so she would also say that they are the most important thing in her life for the same reason.
However-I have friends who come and go and don't have kids. They only make the kids a priority when the kids are around them, because again-they are innocent (the kids) and dependent. But when they are not around-they have other things that are their priority and being around FOR the kids isn't a priority either.
I get what you are saying. I look forward to the day all mine are grown and I can spend time with them on my schedule around my dreams and desires. But for now-it's all about them.